(Closed) Cheesy, but helpful

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I love, love, love that book! I swear by it. I made my now-BF take the quiz on our first date, and it’s been so helpful through our whole relationship. 

Mine are Physical Touch/Words of Affirmation and his are Quality Time/Physical Touch so we have that overlap of being really touchy-feely with each other all the time (something that annoyed my ex to no end). He’s really good at telling me how much he appreciates me after we do something together, so we balance each other really well. We go to the gym together several times a week – he gets his Quality Time, I get my Affirmation whenever he tells me I did a great job, etc., and we both get a workout. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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sakirby :  It’s helpful when holidays and birthdays come around too! Since my BF likes quality time, I know tickets to something we can do together is going to go over well. I also bought him a Pop figure from a show we watched together (it’s a pair and I have the other) and a new band for his Fitbit – so both were related to time we’ve spent together. 

It’s a good starting point for when you’re really, really stuck. I’m usually terrible at gifts but he loved it. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Thats awesome! My friend told me about this awhile back. Mine is touch, and I’m 99% confident my so is acts of service (he big on doing tasks for me, and is always super happy when I do things for him as well)

I’ve been meaning to find a quiz to get him to take tho….Oh have you tried the 36 questions thing? That was a good one.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?mcubz=0

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We are both quality time so it’s hard when we are extra busy and can’t see each other.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We just took it. And both of us just tied for “physical touch” and “quality time” being our highest (both of us had 8 in those categories). I was pretty surprised! I guess that’s why we get along so well. 😊

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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sakirby :  Love that it was so helpful for you to both find out about your love languages. May have to give it a go!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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sakirby :  That’s really cute. I am going to see if my SO wants to find out about ours!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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sakirby :  Oh yes! Which quiz did you take? I’m pretty sure my “language” is gifts and words of affirmation. BF’s seems to be acts of service (he’s always doing things like dishes, vacuuming, laundry, etc) and quality time.

This is key I think in understanding your partner better!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Is there a link to the quiz? I’m interested to take it with my SO other now that you and other posters have mentioned it! 

I’m in the same boat as you though, OP, as far as waiting. We’ve openly discussed things.. even shopped for rings and I know a proposal is coming soon but it makes me so anxious to wait. I’ve been bad myself about pushing him to do it too, and I don’t want that to backfire, so I’m making the most of our relationship now and constantly looking for ways to improve to make us stronger. Its cute when the guy is so serious about planning a surprise/secret for you too. My SO knows I don’t overly enjoy surprises (waiting for Xmas gifts drives me INSANE) but its adorable how much thought he puts into it. He’s actually been doing a lot of noticable things intentionally to throw me off of when he plans to propose. 

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