Post # 1
I have a random question for all Bee’s out there. Would you want a proposal to be on Valentines Day or a completely random day. I’m planning my proposal and I kinda feel that it’s too much going on in one day!
Some background: I gave my gf March 31st at 12am to be the last day that I can possibly propose. We’ve been dating for 4 years so she’s getting a little antsy so I gave her this date to calm her nerves and show that I was serious.
One of the reasons why I do want to propose on Vday was because, our dating anniversary is on Valentines Day, and I originally thought it would be cute and plus, I’m really excited to get it over with.
The reasons why I don’t:
I plan on doing it at the beach around sunset, but I don’t want other couples to do the proposal at the time that I’m doing it, I wanted it to be special, but if we have 3 other couples that are doing the same thing, it doesn’t ring “unique” to me!
what should I do? I mean, I can wait until the last minute (March 31st) to propose, she would be mad but think it was funny. Should I propose on her bday (march 17th)
Post # 3
I specifically asked not to be proposed to on a holiday. Seems a little cheesy to me, and I wanted the day we got engaged to be it’s own special day. Not a day shared with a holiday. But other Bees will have other opinions. Maybe add a poll to get a better idea of what the majority thinks?
Post # 4
I say do it on V-Day! It’s your dating anniversary–That will make is SO special!
Post # 5
I got engaged on Christmas, and I am perfectly happy with that, despite it being a popular day and time of year for proposals. I’m not competing with others regarding the engagement, so that didn’t matter.
Now, if you want something that is a complete surprised (or as much as it can be as you’re already planning the wedding…), then obviously Valentine’s Day or her birthday aren’t ideal, as she’ll be expecting it. If you don’t care about it being expected, then do it on either day. I suppose if you are worried about “competition” then her birthday would be best.
Or if you want it to be more of a surprise, then choose a random day with no other meaning.
No one can really decide for you or tell you what your gf wants. She could love a Valentine’s proposal or find it cheesy. Everyone is different.
Post # 6
@otto2008: I got engaged last Christmas and I loved it. Now I joke to my FI that Christmas “belongs to me” lol I think that you should do iit on valentines day, especially since that’s your anniversary.
Post # 7
To be honest, I don’t think it will really matter all that much.
Post # 8
I don’t find it to be cheesy. I doubt there will be a bunch of couples on the beach getting engaged at the exact same time. It could be cute to propose on valentines day morning, and enjoy the whole day as a newly engaged couple.
Post # 9
@otto2008: Any day at all is a great day for a proposal.
Post # 10
Valentines is pretty cliché (as is most Holidays)
BUT it is your Dating Anniversary.
When you said your Deadline was March 31st… I immediately thought of St Patrick’s Day… March 17th…
But I see that it is Her Birthday
Lol, so another great double-barreled occasion to celebrate.
Mr TTR proposed to me while we were away on Easter Vacation… we were out for a walk on the beach at the time. It wasn’t a big deal (sans ring)… infact I AFFECTIONATELY call it my Non-Proposal
BUT some girls want a big to-do… like Hollywood. Not so much for me / our style.
Only you know your girl.
Lol, I might got the Holiday = Non-Holiday Route…
Groundhog Day is February 2nd, and the First Day of Spring is March 20th…
BOTH are symbols of NEW Beginnings / Things to come … so you could tie that into the concept of getting Engaged quite easily.
Or New Years Eve… the ultimate in NEW Beginnings… that would work really well if you want a Proposal with a bit more luxe to it.
Hope this helps,
Post # 11
@sillysillybee: best answer award goes to you.
Post # 12
I just ruled out my birthday – I didn’t want to share that with a proposal, lol. I really would have like Xmas or NYE. FI intended to do it NYE but there were too many people at our lookout. He did it a week later on a random Friday.
Post # 13
Who cares what other people are doing? Do what feels right to you and what is special to you and your GF. If your anniversary is on valentines day, then do it then! Don’t compare yourselves to others, this is about the two of you. Good luck!
Post # 14
I specifically asked for mine to not be on a holiday, but I don’t think it is necessarily a bad thing!
I think if I were to choose any holiday to be proposed to, I would choose New Years Eve.
Post # 15
I soon will be awaiting a proposal from my man. I can honestly say that I do not care if he proposes on a holiday or just an ordinary day. But, then again, I might be too easy-going, as I told him that I don’t care HOW he proposes either. (I don’t need something elaborate… like a flash mob or something.) All that matters is that the man I LOVE will be asking me to be HIS WIFE. 😀
I think Valentine’s Day would be cute. It’s your dating anniversary, so I wouldn’t consider it cheesy. Although, she might suspect you choosing this day, so if you want to surprise her, then maybe do it another day… Groundhog’s day could be a cool one, like the PP mentioned~ !!
Post # 16
@otto2008: In my opinion there is no such thing as a bad proposal or a bad (or cheesy) proposal day.
I’ve never seen anyone else’s proposal so if you propose on the beach on V-day, there’s unlikely to be anyone else proposing at the same time.
Go with your heart and I’m sure it will be wonderful, whenever it is.