Post # 1
Urgh, bees. Life sucks right now. I had a chemical pregnancy. I got my first positive on Monday with wondfo, positive Wednesday with a clearblue digital and on Saturday, the wondfo lines were barely there, and the clearblue digital was negative. Sunday morning the wondfo was negative as well. I know it was only 5 days, but it’s so disappointing. I feel so stupid for getting so excited. I should have known there was a good chance it wouldnt last. Darling Husband and I were both so excited, and it was all for nothing.
I just wish the bleeding would start soon, but so far theres no sign of AF. for those of you that have had CPs, how long did it take for the bleeding to start after your negative test?
also, when did you start TTC again after a CP? How long did it take? We’re not sure if we’re going to wait a few months or not. I don’t know if I can go through this again anytime soon.
I cant get a doctors appointment until tomorrow, so figured I’d ask here.
Post # 2
CanadianBride456: I’m so sorry:( I was really excited for you. I have not had a CP before, but wanted to offer my condolences. Take care
Post # 3
I’m so sorry 🙁 i’ve had two CPs. My period started about two or three days after I got a negative HPT.
Post # 4
CanadianBride456: This is only based from what I’ve read. I read that after a chemical pregnancy, most women’s cycle will continue on as the typical 28 days.
Post # 5
CanadianBride456: I’ve not had a CP before so have nothing to add, but wanted to stop by and say that I’m so sorry to hear this. :/ Sending you sticky baby dust for next cycle!
Post # 6
CanadianBride456: Ugh, I am so sorry. They just plain suck. Don’t feel stupid! All TTCers get excited over a BFP! With my CP, we tried again the following month. Best of luck to you!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry! With my CP, bleeding started the day that the digital ClearBlue turned negative. But the lines on the FRER had been getting lighter for two days before that, so I kind of knew it was coming, even before the negative test. Don’t feel stupid for getting excited…you had a positive test, and that’s something to be excited about! Take care of yourself, bee! FX that you get a sticky one soon!
Post # 8
CanadianBride456: I am so sorry. Big Hugs. I have not had one before, but other bees have said the month after you can be very fertile. I can only imagine how hard it can be emotionally, make sure you take care of yourself. FX for your future attempts but I understand your hesitency to jump back in.
Post # 9
I think the general consensus is that you can start trying again right away, or as soon as you feel comfortable. Even for my miscarriage at 8 weeks, the doctors suggested only needing to wait one cycle. And I think that was mostly for dating purposes, honestly.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry. Don’t feel stupid for feeling excited–anyone TTC would feel excited and then disappointed with a chemical pregnancy. It means whatever it means to you; you feel how you feel, and you should take care to accept and validate those feelings for yourself.
CPs are common (as much as 50-75% chance, depending on your age) and although everyone is different, most of the time, the body moves on kind of quick–most women don’t even realize they’ve had one if they’re not TTC and might have a period that’s slightly off, but be regular by the next cycle. So in terms of health, unless you have some sort of medical condition and your OB tells you otherwise, you don’t have to change a thing in your TTC plans. You can start trying again tomorrow, if you want.
Post # 11
I got pregnant immediately after my chemical pregnancy. Losing the first pregnancy was devastating and I was so scared when I got pregnant again. It is such a painful process. Even though it was only a few days, from the moment you get that BFP, you start to dream and make plans and, suddenly, all those dreams and plans vanish. Right now you may miss the baby that never had a proper chance but it will get better. My Dear Daughter, with whom I got pregnant the month after my chemical, is happily sleeping in her room right now and I could not imagine not having exactly her. It doesn’t make sense but I’m happy I lost the first pregnancy because my Dear Daughter is just perfect in every single way, she is the little girl we were meant to get.
Post # 13
Never ever feel stupid for being happy! So sorry you’re going through this. I got my first BFP on a thursday, I was late, but spotting immediately. I thought that was normal (silly me). By the following Monday my period was full force. So if you tested early, you probably have a few days after AF should have arrived to start the bleeding. Hang in there!
Post # 14
Thanks for the kinds words ladies. I know you’re all right, it was normal for us to get excited when we got our BFPs, but the disappointment is like a ton of bricks. We had a few days of happy planning and what ifs, and just knowing that this time it’s not going to work out was devastating. But everyday is getting a little better. I’ll just be go relieved once the bleeding starts and I can really get all this behind me.
Post # 15
Noooooo!! I am so sorry!!!!!! I literally could have written this post a week ago. I was DEVASTATED!!! Seeing postive tests for the first time in my life, I was OVER THE MOON. I couldn’t have been happier. and to have it taken away after only 4 days…..I cried for a long time. It doesn’t matter how long you were pregnant, it doesn’t make it easy! I starting bleeding about two days after all my negative tests. I started using OPK’s way earlier than I normally would just in case it messes with this cycle, but every doctor and person has told me, there is no need to wait after a chemical pregnancy (for anything other than emotional reasons). I’ve also heard the rumor that you’re extra fertile after one, so I am hoping that’s true. I know stories go both ways, but i’ve read so many of women having chemical pregnancies then the following month getting pregnant again with their sticky baby. So as much as I never want to go through that again either (who would!!!) the idea of putting off TTC even longer, I just can’t do that. Feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to!! As I just went through this exact thing and I know it’s so hard 🙁 I will be thinking of you!