Chemical pregnancy. :( Looking for support/encouragement

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

minimalistoverplanner :  oh sweetie *hugs*

I know you know this, because you’re a smart cookie, but chemical pregnancies are almost always just that something in the blastocyst was genetically off and your body was like “nah I’d rather wait for a good one.” and hit the eject button.  I know it hurts so much, but this is most likely just random chance.

Here’s the silver lining. You know right off the bat that

– you are producing eggs

– Darling Husband is producing good swimmers

– there is nothing blocking his swimmers from getting to your egg–no hostile uterus, no blocked tubes, etc.. 

– your lining is thick enough for implantation

– your timing is good

That’s huge!  You go in to cycle two knowing way more about your fertility than most people.  

Again, I don’t mean to minimize your pain and dissapointment–it’s real, and nothing will change that.  Just trying to minimize your fear that this is telling you bad things about your body, by letting you know all the good things its telling you!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Hugs to you, Bee!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

**hugs**

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Hugs to you! Such an emotional roller coaster to go from feeling so high and excited to just the opposite. I just wanted to say that I feel for you and I agree with what a PP saod, there are so many positives that you know now as well. Be kind to yourself and know it’s okay to feel sad right now. Best of luck to you! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

minimalistoverplanner :  huge hugs to you. I was there end of August last year with our first attempt too, and it’s horrible! I really really feel for you, but please don’t let it discourage you! It’s your body screening out the not quite right ones, but the right one *is* in there 🙂 in our case we had a chemical, followed by a miscarriage at 9 weeks, and now I’m almost 20 weeks. It can and will happen for you. Lots of luck and remember to look after yourself and try not to worry!!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It is heartbreaking to get your hope so up and then lose it.  Hugs to you in your TTC journey 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Chemical in oct

Sticky baby in nov.

30 weeks now. I still have anxiety that something is wrong. Youre not alone, its so hard.. fingers crossed 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We had a CP our first cycle trying too… got so excited with the BFP..even had symptoms indicating pregnancy! But then I got a  BFN when looking for that darker line two days later.. then the symptoms were gone…and AF arrived…i only tested early because I was symptomatic.. otherwise I may have never tested and known!

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