Chemical pregnancy. :( Looking for support/encouragement

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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6696 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

minimalistoverplanner :  Yay! I’m so glad your levels are down! Best of luck this cycle ❤ I hope you get your BFP and sticky bean ❤

Post # 17
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1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

So sorry for your loss. I had a chemical back in April and the day after I miscarried my HCG was already down to 5. It’s so hard, but the good thing is you can try right away. Give yourself plenty of time to be sad and don’t feel guilty about it. Orignally, I didn’t want to make a big deal because I thought other people who were further along were worse – but it is a loss and you need to properly grieve. We are still TTC and crossing our fingers for a stick bean. Hugs your way

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

minimalistoverplanner :  Oh, I am so glad I got on and read this post to know I am not alone. I just had a chemical last month, and I am also dealing with fears over if I will be able to get pregnant again. I got on here when I saw the first positive test since I couldn’t believe I was actually pregnant, and everyone here was confirming the line and I started to get excited, and then almost immediately I started spotting and then full on period. I knew something wasn’t right. It was also really horrible timing–I was away for the long weekend at my sister-in-law’s graduation and I couldn’t even talk to Darling Husband that much about what I was feeling. He was supportive as he could but we were so busy and I just felt like I was shriveling up inside and couldn’t talk to anyone about it. I didn’t want to tell my mom because we didn’t want anyone to know we were thinking of trying… it was so lonely. I also heard it is better not to use tampons, and that drove me literally crazy. I didn’t realize how dependent I was on tampons and how horrible the feeling was knowing I could feel myself losing the pregnancy. I tried not to even think of it as a MC, but I know it was. I canceled my appointment at the doctor, because I just didn’t even want to talk about it. Totally know how you feel.

I felt that twinge a few days ago, we’re not doing OPKs or anything and it wasn’t the normal time, but I know things will be off because of the chemical. We made sure to BD haha, but I am okay with waiting one more cycle to be regular since I know the general days I will ovulate when I am normal. This just sucks, because I wanted to be kind of worry-free and relaxed about the whole process, and the very first try was a loss. Praying/sending good thoughts your way as we are in the same situation! Reading other’s words of encouragement was SO helpful!

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

So sorry for your loss.  I miscarried my first pregnancy, but my 2nd was sticky and now my daughter is happily crawling around my house.  There is no reason to believe you will have any more chemicals.  Just wanted to say though, I personally think it is a good thing that your doctor has noted the loss on your charts.  This way, in the very small possibility that you do end up having multiple losses, you would have evidence to justify testing to find out potential problems.  Some doctors will not order such tests until 3+ losses, so it is important for them to be aware of each loss.  Fingers crossed for a sticky baby for you very soon!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

minimalistoverplanner :  My reply before never posted, but I totally know what you mean. We just need to not stress over it and think positive! And yes, keeping it a secret sucks. I did tell one friend who just had a baby because I just needed to say SOMETHING. Having people you can relate to on this forum helps, too. Hoping you are feeling more positive and that you get good news soon!!!

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