(Closed) Cherish what you have

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m sorry to hear of your loss.  It’s a shame that it can take such a tragedy to shake us out of our wedding-fog.  I never developed such a fog, because before I even got engaged my family dealt with a similar tragedy.

In the fall of 2005 my cousin got engaged.  Her wedding planning began.  In Febuary of 2006 her mother was diagnosed with breat cancer.  They decided to post-pone the wedding until she recovered.

Fast forward to spring of 2007 and the wedding planning was back in full swing with my aunt having made a full recovery and having just gotten a clean bill of health!  The doctor told her she would be dancing at her grandaughter’s wedding, not just her daughter’s.  On June 4th I was e-mailing my cousin addresses for her Save-The-Date Cards.

On the morning of June 6th, my mother called my cell phone.  I thought she was calling to wish me happy birthday (since it was my bday).  Instead she was calling to tell me that my aunt had died in her sleep.  She had an infection of a valve in her heart (most likely due to the placement of a central line for her chemo months earlier) that was masked by the steroids she had been taking.

The wedding went forward in January of 2008, and she wasn’t there to celebrate.  Instead there was an empty seat with a bouquet of flowers where she should have been.

Looking back, I wish she and my cousin had decided to go ahead with their original plans.  She may not have felt that great, she may have been bald, but she would be have been there.  But hindsight is 20/20.

As soon as I got engaged, my mother made me swear that no matter what might happen the wedding would take place.  If only we could always cherish our loved ones the way we do when one is lost.


Jma19- thanks for reminding us of that.  My thought and prayers are with you and your soon-to-be family. 

Post # 4
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I’m so sorry for both of your losses… thank you so much for sharing this with all of us and for helping us keep our heads on straight. Best of luck to both of you in the rest of your planning – jma19, your Fiance is so fortunate to have you during this time.

Post # 5
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are so right–We shouldn’t lose sight of things in planning our wedding.

I’m thinking of you and your families during this hard time. *Hugs*

Post # 6
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear about both losses. Jma19, please accept our condolences. Thank you for this post, and I wish you all the best! My thoughts are with you.

Post # 7
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. 

Post # 8
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Our backyard!

I’m very sorry for your loss, that is so terrible 🙁  Good luck to you and your family <3

Post # 9
48 posts

I’m so sorry for you loss. My FI’s father died a week ago and it has been painful to realize he won’t be at the wedding.

Post # 11
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

My thoughts are with you and your family.  *Hug*

Post # 12
28 posts

I am so sorry that happened, but thank you for reminding us of what’s important.  My father is older, and I’m terrified of something like this happening.  It is *very* inspirational to see you and your fiance facing this together. 

 Thank you for your honesty and courage in sharing this, and my prayers are with you and your families together.  


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