- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Ok, this seems really silly but it’s driving me up one wall and down the other trying to figure out how to tactfully handle this. We are getting married 4th of July week and were planning on just doing a very simple ceremony in a park with our immediate family members. I’m joining the military right after that and we’re planning on having the real party after I’m done with basic training. My little sister is having a huge wedding at the end of the month, so I don’t want to add any craziness to my family’s life with my own wedding, as all I really care about is marrying my dream guy, I honestly wouldn’t care if we got married in a bar at this point. The monkey wrench in the situation is that my younger cousin eloped without telling anyone about it last year, and even her parents found out on Facebook. So I’m trying to be sensitive to the fact that not inviting everyone could really hit some sore points, and when I called my aunt last night to tell her, she was instantly delighted and promised that they’d all be there blah blah blah. I can’t really invite one nucleus of the family without inviting everyone else too, and I have a TON of relatives, as does my fiancee. We’re both from super close families and while we don’t care about making a huge affair out of our wedding, I have a feeling it’s on the brink of turning into a 150 guest ordeal whether we like it or not. It’s just not in the budget for us to throw a proper wedding party, and if as many people show up as I think will, it would be really strange not to feed everyone and throw some form of celebration, and then it would seem equally strange to throw another party when I get back from basic. As much as I’d love to have my extended family there, it just doesn’t feel like an option right now and I have NO CLUE how to handle this without seriously hurting some feelings. Any thoughts on how to deal with all or part of this?