Post # 16
ew VOMIT. chewing tobacco is disgusting.
Post # 17
Honestly, this is a total deal-breaker for me.
My cousin is 54-years old and has oral cancer from chewing tobacco. He’s on a feeding tube and his wife (a retired cop), had completely gone downhill since the diagnosis. They had plans to travel and see the world once she retired. Now she’s looking at losing her husband within the year.
Post # 18
So sorry to hear. I would be devastated in your aunts position so I totally understand where you are coming from.
I did talk to him and he said he did buy a few cans because he was stressed. He also said he already got the patches and hes not using it anymore. He said he didnt get into it like he had before because he knows its bad and he shouldnt be doing it.
Some posters mentioned lying. I wouldnt say he lied. He didnt hide it. I got in his car and the can was on the passengers seat, he left the packaging in his pants when I do the laundry at least half the time. So he didnt volunteer the info, but I wouldnt say he was sneaking around. It was in plain view and when I asked him he was honest.
Post # 19
I hear what youre saying. I have a lot of mental hang ups around food/things. I dont eat meat or fish… and have I cant even eat the fake meat bc the idea of it repulses me. I cant eat dirt pudding bc the worms in pudding combo freaks me out. I cant even touch fish or the water fish has been in. I get weirded out by stuff mentally. This is something he is aware of.
Post # 20
Not all unreasonable. My husband dipped when I met him. He knew it was a disgusting habit, but had done it since he was a teen and his friends all did it. When I first saw him do it, I was shocked and horrified. I told him it was awful and I didn’t approve. I also told him about my grandfather and how he died from a lifetime of smoking and all the patients with tongue and mouth cancer I’d seen and what I’d did to them. When we got more serious, I told him I wouldn’t marry someone who dipped. He quit. Cold turkey. We’ve been married for 2 years now, and he’s still clean.
I would insist he quit.