(Closed) Child table vs. sitting with parents

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve seen it work out well for older children who don’t need help eating. I wouldn’t put children under the age of 7-8 at a children’s table though. We didn’t have a seating chart though (it’s not common here), and the kids all sat with their parents for dinner before moving to the dance floor with the other kids. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

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underblueskies1016 :  Oooh, I think this could be very tricky because children have such varying levels of comfort–you’d have to know the kids in question really well or be comfortable contacting the parents/guardians (or is there an issue with that–I’m not a parent, so I don’t know…I hope others will weigh in).  I know children who would be really excited about getting to sit away from adults and could do it without being a disturbance to others, but I also know other children, sometimes even as old as 10 or 11, who would find the noise/lights/people they don’t know to be so upsetting that they’d want to be near their parent/guardian.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Put them with their parents, otherwise more likely they will run around and annoy other people.  If these people are so helpbent on brinking their kids, they should have them at their table. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Have them sit with their parents but set up a play table and put all parents with little kids near it so after eating they can play in eyesight of their parents. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Sitting with parents, but with things to keep them occupied at the tables should they not want to eat, notebooks to write in, colouring sheets with coloured pencils, slinkies, bouncy balls?

Post # 8
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Honey bee

Childrens tables can work if you happen to have a lot of kids close in age who are familiar with each other (say a group of cousins or nieces/nephews) who are all in like the 6-12 age range.  But otherwise, I think most kids (and their parents) are most comfortable with being seated with the parents at a large function with unfamiliar people.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

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underblueskies1016 :  We had a kids’ table, but all of the kids were 7 – 10 years old. They all had a blast. We had candy, glow sticks, confetti bombs, coloring books, and bubbles for them.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It depends on their ages and whether they know each other or not. We sat them with their parents but had a table close by with colouring books, stickers, and some toys. And the kids ran back and forth between the tables with their parents and the kids entertainment table. From what I hear, this table was a huge hit. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Its just easier to pt them with their parents. A lot of parents wouldnt want their kids sitting away, and they’ll be better behaved sitting with their parents lol. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

As a parent of a 7 and 5 yr old, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with my kids sitting away from me. 10 yr and older yeah that would be ok.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

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underblueskies1016 :  RSVP cards have an option for veggie vs meat eater.  Or this meal vs. that.  Why not add an option for “kids with parents” and “kids table” with a note that it’s 8+  Then you don’t risk some parents not liking the seating arrangement or others tossing their 3 year old at the kids’ table with the assumption that their older cousin will deal with them.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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underblueskies1016 :  we only had our nieces and nephew at the wedding and they sat with their parents. I think it depends on how old they are. Ours were 9 and under (down to 1 month old) so we didn’t think it was wise to let them sit on their own as some would definitely need the help of their parents. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would assume most parents would want younger children seated with them so they can keep an eye on them.  On the other hand, if you’re talking about 15 and 16 year old “kids,” then I think a kids table is fine.

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