(Closed) Childfree By Choice (CFBC) Board Needed!

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 346
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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Mrs. Mouse: Appreciate the update, and look forward to more information once the discussion has happened.

Post # 347
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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Mrs. Mouse:  it does! Thank you!

Post # 350
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Bumble bee

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Mrs. Mouse:  I appreciate the communication and updates.  Thank you!

Post # 351
Bee
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

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MissesAwesome:  As I just wrote in my reply PM to you, the two separate “child free by choice” board Ideas were merged into one. We often do this when going through and cleaning up our Ideas section. All of the comments on your original Idea are still there, but the main text is now the text of the original Idea. The Idea is now also officially under review by Admin.

Post # 353
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Wow – what a thread!

I am very impressed with the overall civility of the posters, the tenacity of the supporters, and Admin’s willingness to hear everyone’s opinions.  Once upon a time I was an Admin on a much smaller board, and it seriously sucked.  My friend and I  had created the board in an attempt to bring community to a group of otherwise marginalized people, but we quickly learned that our good intentions (we made no money from it, nor did we want to)  were not appreciated.  It was impossible not to be criticized no matter what we did — someone was always pissed off at us.  We ended up closing the board because it was just not worth the drama.  So kudos to Admin for their handling of the situation.

I otherwise have abstained from commenting because the issue doesn’t really applly to me (I have a daugther, a granddaughter and a grandson), but I will say that I think a CFBC section would be a good thing for those people who do want it.  

And for the benefit of those who are questioning if they want kids, I will even open myself up to criticism to admit that I am one of those people who, if I had to do it all over again, would be CFBC.   My pregnancy in college was not planned (I was lax in my taking of the pill), and I was pressured by my daughter’s father to have and keep her (we were not married, and we never even lived together).  Although I love my daughter and granndkids (in fact, my grandkids are my most favorite people in the world and the best kids EVER!), if I could go back in time, I would smack some sense into my 19 year old self and remind her of her dreams and goals, and let her know in no uncertain terms that a child seriously changes everything, especially when the mother is young and poor (and immature, but of course I didn’t think I was immature then!).   To all of you who are questioning if you want kids, question further.  I genuinely wish I had.  

Now the “family values” posters can flame away at me if you want to — I’m logging off to take my grandson to a doctors appointment, and I’m just being honest to prevent other people from making the same mistakes I made.  I will stand by my comments no matter what you say or think.

Post # 354
Bee
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

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MarriedToMyWork:  No problem.

Post # 355
Bee
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

One more update: I know I promised you guys a timeline today, but unfortunately I still don’t have one.

What I can tell you is this: the rest of the Admin team and I are taking this request seriously and that is why we have officially put it up for “review,” as you will see if you check out the Idea in the Ideas section. (You may note that it looks a little different, and that it is because it was merged with an older version of the same Idea/request.)

http://weddingbee.uservoice.com/forums/241844-submit-your-idea/suggestions/6026232-have-a-childfree-by-choice-board

As a side note, I apologize for any confusion this may have created. The intention was to clean up the Ideas section, not to remove the content of MissesAwesome’s Idea.

A reorganization of the boards is planned for sometime in the near future. When I get clarification on when that will be, I will let you know. Please bear with us in the meantime as we process information and get reorganized in the new year.

 

Post # 356
Bee
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

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MelissainNC:  Thank you for your compliments and perspective. πŸ™‚

Post # 357
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Bee Keeper

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Mrs. Mouse:  many thanks for your update. I can only speak for myself in saying that I did not expect a timeline by today, maybe by the end of the week. I’m glad that this appears to now be being taken seriously by the WB admin, and I am very cautiously optimistic. Please keep us updated (even if it’s to say ‘no progress yet’, so we know we haven’t been forgotten). 

Post # 359
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

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MelissainNC:  Thanks so much for sharing your story and giving your support. During my own fence sitting, hearing from parents like yourself was an an invaluable benefit, and I really hope you get no criticism at all for sharing your own experience and thoughts, at least not in this thread!

Post # 360
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I love this! Not sure if I can still vote since it’s under review, but my husband and I are CFBC and it can be frustrating listening to the comments from family/friends, and being forced to give reasonings why, and hearing, “you’ll change your mind!” Well, we have a plan if that happens (though we’re positive it won’t): adoption. It would be so great to have a place to talk about this!!

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