(Closed) Childfree Section of the Community

posted 9 years ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: Do you believe that there should be a Childfree board to counter all of the pregnancy boards?

    Yes.

    I'll share my opinion in the thread.

  • Post # 182
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    2977 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am all for a Childfree board on here. I don’t see what the big issue is with people opposing it. I am not religious, so I don’t click on the Catholic or Christian boards. My spouse is not Military, so I don’t go on the Military boards. They do not affect me in any way by existing on WB. If you’re not a like minded person then just don’t visit that board. Simple as that. 

    Post # 183
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I already voted on this idea but I’ll chime in again. I think that a Childfree board (or DINK or whatever) would be an excellent addition to the Bee. DH and I have no idea if we are going to have kids or not and I would love a place to discuss our lives as they stand now (no kids). Yes, there are the nesting boards but there are other things I would like to discuss besides our house, pets and cooking. I do really wish that the nesting boards would be seperate from the baby boards, I feel like all the nesting posts get eaten by the babies/TTC/pregnancy topics.

    Post # 184
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    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    You could argue the legitimacy of ANY board that isn’t wedding related on a wedding website. But they’re there. And while we may not be head over heels in love with every single one, we still love the options. I want kids eventually. But I would LOVE to see a childfree board. It would place for ppl to commiserate, find like-minded people, bond, learn. I’m sure there are tons of people out there who have caught crap from family, friends, coworkers for deciding not to have kids and even more who are REALLY unsure if they want to have kids. Wouldn’t it be great to get the opinions of people who don’t want kids and find out how their decision has affected, or not affected, their life as opposed to exclusively polling an entire group that whole-heartedly wants children? 

    You don’t have to understand or argree with the board for it to be a legitimate board. I’m sure there are plenty of bees who feel the waiting board is a silly place for emotional not engaged bees to over-analyze their relationships. But I am SO glad it’s there. Cause it meets my needs. Yeah, I could post in the relationships board. But then the relationships board would be packed with waiting posts, or nothing at all. Because, honestly, before I knew there were women out there in my waiting position I never spoke a word about it because I thought I was alone. Isn’t that the same for the childfree? It’s a potentially controversial, misunderstood topic that doesn’t really have a place. One place. Not 100 subtopics that are potentially related. And why would you complain about being pressured to have kids in front of a group of women who want kids? If you build it, they will come.

    Fingers crossed this comes to fruition. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 185
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @janie-janie:   I don’t know what Not Wedding Related stands for… but I agree… nesting should be its own site. Like the knot … the nest… and whatever else they have for the home. lollol

    Post # 186
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    Sugar bee

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    @Fallicious1012:  Not Wedding Related is Not Wedding Related. ๐Ÿ™‚ I understand the point of seperate websites as opposed to seperate boards. But I think I’d be sad if everything was broken up like that. I like being able to pop into different topics so easily and not need another account to check out or comment on what’s going on. Just my 2 cents. Though, the nest is a cute name. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 187
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    335 posts
    Helper bee

    i don’t see a need for a “childfree” section because isn’t that pretty much all of them, minus the pregnancy/babies sections? plus, i would only imagine the same post over and over again on the board: “i don’t have kids!” which, that’s cool and all, i don’t have kids either, but couldn’t any “childfree” issues you want to talk about fit into another section already?

    also, i find it strange that the poll consits of either agreement or posting below. how about just a “no”?

    Post # 188
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @laceywings:  The OP wasn’t asking if you agreed with it or not. She was directing the question to members who would be interested. From the OP:

    “I’m only including a Yes option on the poll because I’m only trying to speak for those it would be useful for.”

    Post # 189
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @claireos:  Well said, I completely agree.

    As far as people saying “childfree” Bees can just post in various other sections… what if they want to talk specifically about not having children? Sure, you could put that in a few places, but they’re harder to find because while one person might post that under “babies” someone else could post that under a nesting thread… it’s harder for a group of childfree posters to find each other when it’s all spread out. One board would allow them to come together and find similar threads, rather than searching the entire site in different categories. Also, I think more people would be comfortable posting about it if childfree were it’s own section- I’ve seen some judging and drama here on the Bee towards people who just don’t want kids, so some of them just don’t post about it.

    (As a side note… I have extreme baby fever and want lots of kids, lol. So this board wouldn’t benefit me… but it wouldn’t hurt me either. It wouldn’t affect me at all.)

    Post # 190
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    Helper bee

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    @UpstateCait: doesn’t that kind of counter the reason for having a poll to begin with? anyway, i think if you’re asking a yes or no question, the answer choices should at least include both yes and no. and yes, she was asking if there was agreement between bees about whether there is a need for a childfree board. i disagreed. as someone who doesn’t have children, i consider myself an intrested party despite not feeling a need for such a board.

    Post # 191
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @laceywings:  

    She was just trying to see how many people would actually be interested in CBC topics – and clearly there are a lot of them.    And no, as evidenced by the judgemental reactions here in this thread and others, couples who are CBC can’t always post about those issues without taking a lot of crap for it.

    Post # 192
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    5 pages in 8 hours, really?

    Why wouldn’t a childfree board get added!?

    I agree that it can often be difficult for people to post about “childfree issues” (for lack of a better term) because the many people who have/want kids might get offended.  I mean, just look at an innocent post the other day about not having kids at your wedding and all the people who insisted that children just plain “BELONG” at weddings thus implying that if you don’t invite all the children you know, then you’re probably the type to kick puppies in your spare time, too.

    I’m being facetious here, but I believe that a childfree board might be a good start for all those who want to discuss birth control, abortion, childfree vacations, and could maybe become a place for Bees to celebrate not getting a BFP without feeling like an a-hole to all their good friends who are dying for one, you know?

    Post # 193
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    Showing up to offer my support for such a board. While I eventually should be ready for children in the future, I have to be child free for some time for health reasons.

    Sometimes it hurts to see so many TTC threads, or baby threads. Sometimes it doesn’t seem appropriate to post in the nesting category about “mundane” topics when people are gearing up for birthing new people, and are busily making huge changes. Sometimes posts that pale in comparison just aren’t made because the would-be poster feels out of touch, and maybe even like a pariah.

    Sometimes people don’t want to take the chance on potentially being ignored or even  shunned by people willing or able to be parents. A board dedicated to those people who can speak freely, be accepted, and understood by others would be welcome.

    Post # 194
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    Busy bee

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    @Miss Apricot:  Ooh, a waiting to ttc board would be nice!  Or baby-fever ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Even though I’m ready to TTC, I see no problem with a childfree board, too.

    Post # 195
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

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    @Juliepants:  <– this too!

    Post # 196
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    Bumble bee

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    @Juliepants:  I believe kids belong at weddings. I also believe that there should be a childfree board. I don’t have kids right now. I also don’t believe that people that do not want kids at their weddings kick puppies in their spare time. lol

    I think that there are a number of people that have kids/want kids soon/like kids that didn’t want kids at their weddings for ____reason. I agree with your post but I don’t think that all the people that said they don’t want kids at their wedding would use the childfree board because they don’t want/aren’t sure if they want kids.

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