Post # 197
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Sugar bee
I read a comment that a bee posted earlier. She said that no matter what boards you do or do not go to, everytime a bee comments on a thread it goes to the main page where any and all bees could see it.
Its a good idea for childfree boards but since any and all bees can see it on the main page, the discussion could get out of hand. Im sure that bees read a lot of the threads that are on the main page even though they dont frequent that board. And they will post opinions,etc.
I mean look at the huge discussion on the possibility of having childfree boards!!! 5 pages! Imagine the comments on the posts if it does get its own board?
Hope I explained this right. Oh well. We’ll see how it all plays out.
Post # 198
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7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
@MissCallieJean: Haha, I know, I was just throwing it out there as an example of the guilt that can sometimes get heaped into the childfree discussions on here. I want kids but I don’t want them at my wedding and I also avoid kicking puppies, lol.
Post # 199
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2253 posts
Buzzing bee
Hey I love all the boards on WeddingBee. If a childfree board was added on the Bee, I’m sure I would love it too.
Post # 200
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1645 posts
Bumble bee
I don’t care if a childfree board is created or not. You are right, it won’t affect me. And if there weren’t a pregnancy/babies board, then I would have put my posts in the other areas. That wasn’t the point of my post at all. However creating a childfree board won’t stop people from clicking on the threads and replying with inflammatory reponses, especially to controversial topics, like abortion.
Post # 201
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10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@Juliepants: Exactly.
Its annoying that so many people seem to have such an issue with this. Adding a CBC board isn’t going to affect those against it in the slightest. Every other aspect of life seems to be represented here so why shouldn’t we be allowed to have our little section of the boards? There are probably more bees on this site who would fall into the “childfree” category than those who utilize the baby boards. I think the naysayers would be surprised.
We all understand that the mods can’t control what boards are created but it would be nice if our fellow bees would atleast respect the fact that we deserve a place to post, just like they’ve managed to find. It’s great that some PP’s love the baby boards so much. That’s what they’re there for and I don’t think that they should go away (I’m sure I’ll be using them at some point) but just because something doesn’t apply to you doesn’t mean that we shouldnt have it. Seems pretty freakin’ selfish to me.
Post # 202
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@mrstilly: It might not stop people from posting, but it will probably cut back on a lot of the chatter from people who are offended by it being posted in say, the baby boards or newlywed boards. If people don’t have the common sense to stay off boards that offend everything they stand for reproduction wise, they really have no one to blame but themselves if they don’t like the topic.
Post # 203
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Bumble bee
@claireos: I didn’t mean that there should be separate sites for everything, but that a few boards for “Nesting” or what have you is okay… but if it’s growing it should be a separate site. I know I didn’t clarify, just typed a quick response, so I apologize! I just feel as though whenever I click on “boards” so many child-related things come up. I love kids, I’m a teacher… but I don’t want to sift through the mom-stuff to get to the goodies… wedding planning boards!!! 🙂 Being a mom is a blessing and I would love to be one some day… but it is more “marriage” related, rather than just “wedding” related. Know what I mean?
Post # 204
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Bumble bee
@Juliepants: Totally know what you are saying. I’ve seen those threads about not wanting kids and it turned into a whole thing! Honestly, I don’t click on every thread I see unless it sounds interesting. If I disagree and can’t express my feelings nicely, then I leave the thread. (unless its about kicking puppies! lol) I think no matter what, someone’s going to have a problem. It’s their choice to either click on the thread that they know they disagree with and are going to start a problem or just go on with their day.
But for people that are childfree, it would be nice to have a specific place to go to and discuss something that is important with other people that feel the same way and may have good advice.
Post # 205
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4322 posts
Honey bee
Mods, take note! Create, create create!!!
Post # 206
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853 posts
Busy bee
Fi and I are and always will be childfree, and I was just roaming around the Not Wedding Related section yesterday, feeling like it is overtaken by baby and pregnancy stuff. I posted a thread about the frustrations of telling family of your choice to be childfree and their judgments, and I remember not being able to figure out where to post it . . . . I would love a childfree section and am happy to know there are so many other CBC bees as well.
Post # 207
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5667 posts
Bee Keeper
@StuporDuck: Bakerella posted saying that the Mods have little influence over decisions like this and urges us to post in the Idea forums. You can comment on and rate the idea here:
http://ideas.weddingbee.com/topic/can-we-have-a-dinks-section
Post # 208
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6886 posts
Busy Beekeeper
I have a child and personally think a CBC board is a great idea. There are many women who don’t care/want children. Their feelings count just as anyone elses.
The only thing that is leaving a bad taste in my mouth about this whole thread is the posters who are saying weddingbee should be just for weddings. There was not to long ago a thread about why the other boards were created. Why should I be told to leave just because my wedding is over. I frequent the nesting board a lot with having a baby.
If you don’t want to see the nesting boards then just click on wedding related and you won’t see them, instead of clicking on All Boards
Post # 209
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6431 posts
Bee Keeper
I’ve started a thread in the ‘newly weds’ section in Nesting. I didn’t really know where else to put it; I didn’t think pregnancy/parenting/babies was appropriate, and didn’t want to put it in the Lounge or Beehive as people might think it’s a subject for debate; and that is not the idea. If any CFers/CBCers would like to join me, that’d be great; I thought we could share thoughts and experiences on there 🙂
Post # 210
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Honey bee
My question is this, on the “childfree” board would you discuss life without a child? I mean, the parenting boards are designed to discuss specific aspects of parenting. What specific aspects of being “childfree” would be discussed? Most of what you mentioned falls into many many categories. I am just confused as to why there needs to be a whole other section dedicated to being a couple without children. Wouldn’t your focus be less on children and more on your life as a couple which would fall under “newlywed”?
I am not saying “No!” I am just confused as to the real practicality of the board. I am childfree and not TTC but I would never use a board dedicated to not having children. That seems more like a thread topic than a board to me.
Post # 211
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Honey bee
I am not against the idea. Obviously I just wouldn’t be one to use it. If you guys really want one then make sure you vote and post in the ideas forum. It look almost a year to get my college board up because they had other, more important tite functions to worry about. So be prepared for it to take some serious time.
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