(Closed) Childhood Dream Dress vs. The Lady I am Today

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should go with a dress that represents who you are. I know there’s a dress that you dreamed of for years, but is it really who you are today? Would you regret a ballgown? Honestly, it sounds like your sold on your first dress! I would go with your gut and get it! It’s GORGEOUS!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would go with who you are today. I did that, and while I had some thoughts of regret before the wedding b/c I didn’t have a “huge white dress” that I felt I should have, I loved my dress on the wedding day and felt it was perfect for me and my wedding.

Post # 6
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2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Go with the fit-and-flare–it’s gorgeous, and you should feel like yourself on your wedding day. 🙂

Post # 7
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527 posts
Busy bee

Go with the first dress and be a “queen” rather than a “princess.”  Congrats! 

Post # 8
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5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

LOVE LOVE LOVE the one in your first post.

Definately go with the “who you are today” dress.

Childhood dreams are just that: childhood dreams. Go with your adult choices, not what you thought you wanted when you were 5, 10, or 15 years old. You probably had no idea there was a mermaid style of dress back then! As we mature, our tastes change; and also in the planning process you are exposed to things you never knew existed. So go for the “here and now”, not the “I always thought I wanted…”.

Post # 9
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should go with the princess-y dress. Classic and beautiful. Consider that in 20 years from now you may look back on your picture and think “what was I thinking?” NOT that it’s not a great dress, but like you said: you’re a different person today than you were as a child. Obviously you will be different in the future and the ballgown is just timeless.

Post # 10
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I really like the first dress. Getting married is about the now and the future. I am sure that you will look beautiful in both. 

Post # 11
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

You know, I had that thought too. Mine’s still a ball gown :), but there was a more classic shape that I had always thought I would get. It was definitely more fairy tale than the one I ended up with, which (I think!) is a little more ‘grown-up.’ I’d get the one that feels right for who you are today. I think you’ll be a lot happier if your dress represents you instead of 10-year-old you :).

Post # 12
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674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love the second dress! Think of it this way: you loved it as a child, it blew you away as a woman. It means you still like it. Also, ball gowns are classic. They never go out of style; can’t say the same with fit and flare.

Post # 13
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I love the details on the first dress!  I say go with who you are now.  Everyone’s dresses will look dated either way in 20 years anyways.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I like the first dress, but it also looks really trendy and doesn’t look like an outdoor garden wedding dress. I think the second one is better for that. Like seanmarie said, your tastes will probably change again. When you look back on your photos and your day would you rather be wearing something trendy you like now or something timeless you dreamed about as a little girl?

Post # 15
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852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I saw the ballgown dress. 

1. I am not a huge fan of the big flower on the first dress.

2.  The Casablanca ballgown is my exact dress- I might be biased 😉

Post # 16
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Both dresses are gorgeous so you absolutely can’t go wrong no matter what you do. And if one feels more right than the other, I urge you to follow your gut.

All of that being said, I personally prefer the ballgown. I think it fits a garden wedding better and I’m just a sucker for the way it looks. BUt that is me, and I am not you.

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