Childhood friend didn't choose me for a bridesmaid, she was mine. She has 8.

posted 8 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Kayla Rose :  Just because you aren’t in her wedding party doesn’t mean that you “aren’t as important to her”. She could just have more close  friends than you do, and that’s ok. Also, the length of time that you’ve known someone is in no way an indicator of closeness. I would stop analyzing her choices and comparing their friendships to the one that you have with the bride. Being a bridesmaid isn’t tit for tat, and you might be thinking into it way more than necessary. 

Example: My fiancée is really popular. She has more close friends than I ever have and more than most people that I know. I’m talking the kind of friends that you would do anything for and would consider family. It was very difficult for her to choose some and not others for her wedding party. I’m sure there are people that were sure that they’d be chosen that weren’t and I’m also sure that this unfortunately caused some hurt feelings. It sucks, but none of it was intentional and it doesn’t mean she loves those friends any less. She seriously just can’t have a million people  standing up there with her. You have to cut the list off somewhere.

It’s perfectly normal to feel disappointed, but I hope this gives you an alternative  perspective ❤️.




Post # 18
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

It’s really hard to guage people. I had a middle school friend not even invite me to her wedding. I was crushed. We aren’t friends anymore for that reason as well as other reasons but you have to decide what you can or cannot be ok with. I decided that her not inviting me to the wedding was the upmost level of betrayel, meanwhile she invited girls she met 2 years ago to be in her bridal party. To me, that was unacceptable. But I don’t know your story or your relationship with her. Maybe you can tell her how you feel and she can tell you the reasons why she decided to ask the girls that she did…I’m sorry doll, I dont have great advice to give 🙁 

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