Post # 16
Kayla Rose : Just because you aren’t in her wedding party doesn’t mean that you “aren’t as important to her”. She could just have more close friends than you do, and that’s ok. Also, the length of time that you’ve known someone is in no way an indicator of closeness. I would stop analyzing her choices and comparing their friendships to the one that you have with the bride. Being a bridesmaid isn’t tit for tat, and you might be thinking into it way more than necessary.
Example: My fiancée is really popular. She has more close friends than I ever have and more than most people that I know. I’m talking the kind of friends that you would do anything for and would consider family. It was very difficult for her to choose some and not others for her wedding party. I’m sure there are people that were sure that they’d be chosen that weren’t and I’m also sure that this unfortunately caused some hurt feelings. It sucks, but none of it was intentional and it doesn’t mean she loves those friends any less. She seriously just can’t have a million people standing up there with her. You have to cut the list off somewhere.
It’s perfectly normal to feel disappointed, but I hope this gives you an alternative perspective ❤️.
Post # 17
I am so greatfull for all of the comments and suggestions/support you all gave me. Being my first post on this website, I wasn’t to sure I was going to get a response at all.
– 3 oUT of the 8 girls are married, so being married myself couldn’t be the issue.
– I’m a regional manager of a company, so money isn’t an issue and she knows it
-her maid of honor is currently living in Ireland, so living a couple hours drive from her wouldn’t be a logical reason either.
I suppose I am being selfish. I had always thought that true friends no matter how far apart could last a lifetime. I guess what really hurts is now knowing our friendship is not as important to her as it is to me.
Thanks again for all the help. I will still go to the wedding no matter how much it hurts. I will try and have a good time. Perhaps it’s time to find new-true friends.
Post # 18
It’s really hard to guage people. I had a middle school friend not even invite me to her wedding. I was crushed. We aren’t friends anymore for that reason as well as other reasons but you have to decide what you can or cannot be ok with. I decided that her not inviting me to the wedding was the upmost level of betrayel, meanwhile she invited girls she met 2 years ago to be in her bridal party. To me, that was unacceptable. But I don’t know your story or your relationship with her. Maybe you can tell her how you feel and she can tell you the reasons why she decided to ask the girls that she did…I’m sorry doll, I dont have great advice to give 🙁