Post # 1
So I recently was helping put together the list of guests for my bridal shower and noticed that my future mother in law had included children on it. Not many, but her granddaughter who is almost 2, another 1.5 year old and our 5 year old flower girl. I realize that flower girls are often invited but im really not keen on having toddlers at my shower. I love kids, but I just feel like this is more of an adult event and not necessarily centered around the little ones (which most other holidays are and i’m completely ok with!). Any suggestions on how to broach this without angering people? I don’t want to put “adults only” because that seems a little passive aggressive and mean but I really would like her to respect my wishes about this.
Post # 3
Would there be a way you could tell her you’d like the Bridal shower to be more adult centred and later for perhaps a babyshower that you could allow children?
My issue was resolved because we had a wine themed shower and that kind of excluded the kids…
If you’re not sure how to broach it with her or she’s adament since she’s throwing it kids can be invited, request that there be a small section/room for the kids so that way they’er there, but not really.
Post # 4
I’ve always thought that bridal showers are more for adults as well. I’m fine with girls, like, 12 and older being there, but I don’t really think there’s any point to inviting children, especially as young as 2. Wouldn’t they be bored?
Personally, I’d never been to a shower where there were girls younger than 12 or so, until my friend and her 2 sisters got married.
At my friend’s shower (and her 2 sister’s showers), their cousins/aunts brought their little daughters/nieces …. there were about 6 of them all under the age of 8 and they ran around screaming and destroying the decorations the entire time. When the bride was opening her gifts, they crowded around the table so no one else could see or take pictures. And their mothers just sat there and laughed and talked about how cute it all was.
If the kids are there and they are well behaved, that’s one thing (but again, wouldn’t they be bored???), but I can not understand why people think it’s appropriate for kids to behave like the above mentioned …..
I would definitely politely request that it’s an adult on event if that’s what you’d prefer.