(Closed) Children at reception

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What did you do for your wedding?

    I allowed children, and I regret it.

    I allowed children, and it worked out great.

    I did not allow children, and I regret it.

    I did not allow children, and it worked out great.

  • Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think it all depends on what type of wedding you want and the number.  I love kids and always enjoyed going to weddings as a child.  However, if I allowed children to my wedding it would be a least 50 more invites because my family is so big.  🙁 if it were more like 10 children I would be more than happy for them to come!  But over 50 scares me and adds a big difference in the budget.

    Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    We had six kids attend our wedding – a six year old, a four year old, three year old, two two year olds and a nine month old.  They were all really well behaved – but I knew they would be because I know the kids and their parents (two kids are my nephews). I made up activity books for them (took me about ten minutes to find all the stuff on the net) and got coloured pencils for them.  Also our venue provided kids meals at about 1/3 of the cost of an adult guest.  They all had a blast and caused no trouble.

    Post # 18
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    Wannabee

    I had an adults only wedding when I married my ex DH. It was a night wedding so not really suitable to for kids and we didn’t get any backlash from anyone. If anything the parents were all happy to have a “date night” out and had a ball dancing the night away.

    The only wedding that I’ve been to where kids weren’t invited and there was an issue was a destination wedding for my ex Brother-In-Law. All the kids were expected to go overseas and join in on the events leading up to the wedding but the actual reception they weren’t invited to. This caused some discomfort as all of us with kids had to find babysitters in a foreign country. I was concerned as my kids were very young and had never been looked after by anyone other than family before and I did not know the babysitter. I don’t think that was handled well and many parents were worried.

    I firmly believe your wedding is your choice and you should invite who you want. I’ve been to wedding with kids that were great and adults only wedding that were also. Good luck!

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    BeeutifulBee:  We didn’t invite any children except for our flower girl, but I’ve now heard that a couple of guests are planning on bringing their kids anyway. It’s a tricky situation because it’s rude to put “adults only” on the website or invitation, but a lot of people ignore who the invite is addressed to and just assume their kids are invited.

    Anyway, I feel that there is good reason to refrain from having children at a wedding. The last wedding I went to we were seated at a table with children and one ended up knocking over a soup bowl onto his mother’s lap. Another got cranky so the parents had to leave the reception early without even getting to speak to the bride & groom. It also had an impact on our experience at the wedding. I just feel that guests can relax more without children there.

    Post # 20
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I had 4 kids under 4 at my wedding – 1 nephew, 1 niece and my twins. They all behaved great But were pretty strongly supervised as we were married near a lake. We had their meals come out with our entrees so they were well fed and had drinks, lollies, games, books and colouring pages on the table. Often it is the kids who are first to the dance floor so that often helps breaking the ice!. In my experience if they are well fed and entertained they are normally no trouble.

    Post # 21
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    BeeutifulBee:  our situation is a little different – we had my siblings who are teenagers and my step kids also teenagers. Plus our daughter who was 18 months attended. We didn’t want lots of kids at our wedding. two friends had under 6 month olds and were absolutely fine with them attending – infants are so different to toddlers! 

    We had only one person unable to attend the wedding and one partner who missed the ceremony As it was too long a day for the babysitter. I probably wouldn’t have changed anything but we had a local wedding. 

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee

    We haven’t gotten married yet (coming up in days!!) and didn’t specifically invite any children but have 5 kids from 6 – 13 who were addendum on their parents RSVP cards and we decided not to say anything and let them come. The main reason we didn’t invite kids was due to numbers, not behavior concerns. I’ expecting more to show up to be honest, and ill let you know how it goes! 

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Each to their own and I love kids (I will have a small litter oneday lol) but we don’t want any children at our wedding. To us, it’s a beautiful, romantic day and I find that a lot of parents actually enjoy the break. We’re going the way of very traditional, classy, black tie – more like a ball than a ‘party’. So I don’t think there will be a place for children.

    I have been to weddings with kids allowed and I found they could spoil things a BIT. At the end of the day, it’s your big day and it’s your choice – good luck!

    Post # 28
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    Blushing bee

    We had kids at our wedding in June . All were from out of town except our niece and nephews , I didn’t want our out of town family to not attend . About 5 were under the age of 10 . And I have to say I do regret it ! My cousin ended up bringing his 3 year old grandson that was not invited ! Although he was adorable ,  he and the other 5 year old were running around rolling all over the floor . 

    The five year olds mother came up to my mother and said she was so embarrassed , when my mom asked why she said that her son had rounded up a ton of our favors from other tables. ( little mints in a box ) When she asked him what he was doing with them he said he was selling them ! Of course she didn’t believe him he’s FIVE but when she took him to the bathroom he had one and five dollar bills in his pocket ! He really was selling them ! Now this is pretty hilarious to us now but still lol 

    My other cousin who is nine got bumped on the dance floor and she started screaming , threw herself on the ground and my husband to pick her up , my dad took her from his arms and told us we did not have to deal with this . When he went to go find her parents they we’re not even in the building ! 

    Now my nephew who is 7 was a dream ! He danced and was so well behaved I guess it just depends on the kid and if the parents are watching them . Our wedding was pretty fancy, 6 course meal and really no place for kids . Although  it did not ruin our day and my husband would say he doesn’t regret it I do . Oh well you live and learn !

    Post # 29
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    It depends on a lot of things. I’m getting married on Sunday and religious Jewish weddings dont often have moments that kids could ruin, like no father daughter dance and the dances are kind of a mob with fast songs, so it depends on the type of wedding

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