- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Beyond our flower girls, we are not having children under 18 at our wedding.
I just received an email from the BMs planning my shower wanting to know if I’d like to include three girls (ages 5, 14, 16) at the shower — their mothers will all be invited. Is it impolite to invite them when they are not invited to the wedding? I know it’s usually in very poor taste to do so, but this clearly isn’t a gift grab situation, and it may be a way for them to feel included (or at least make things easier on the mother of the youngest girl). It’s worth noting that I’ve come to know the two older girls well enough through family functions (these girls are all on my FI’s side) and like them both very, very much (I really like the youngest, too – just can’t have a real conversation with a child that young if you know what I mean).
Mothers especially, how would you feel if your daughters were included – or weren’t included – in such a situation (shower only, please)?