Post # 1
We just finished printing and stuffing our invitation, and now we have realized that we are not sure if some guests will be bringing their children or not. I am not a huge fan of children at a wedding on the beach, BUT I do have nieces and nephews who I would love to be there. We were thinking of printing out a few special cards to ask the family how many will be in their party but we are not sure how to word it so we don’t come off like we can afford everyone in the world or cheap. As is we are averaging $200 a head and children cost $30 each. We can barely afford the 70 guests we have coming, and really don’t want to send an open invite to people who we can’t afford to bring a plus one meaning single friends. Any suggestions? I thought a verbal, ” hey are you bringing the kids?” but my fiance isn’t comfortable asking a few friends. Help us before we end up fighting all night over this!:)
Post # 3
Usually you address the invitations to whom you want to invite: Mr & Mrs Smith or The Smith Family–John, Susie, John Jr and Susie Jr. Also, invitations usually have response cards in them indicating the number of people attending.
If your nieces and nephews are the only kids there, I think that’s OK. Otherwise, I think if you invite some guests to bring kids, you have to invite them all. There is nothing wrong with an adult-only reception. If yours is a destination wedding and guests bring uninvited children, perhaps you could hire a babysitter for them.
Post # 4
We’re having an “adult only” day… although my son, and Fiance niece & nephew will be there for the ceremony… (they’re part of the wedding)
We have 1 sibling who HAS to bring her children or she can’t make it so we will have childcare for the entirity of the day… the “wedding party” kiddos will join her kiddos after the ceremony for the duration of the reception.
We had this “adult only” info in the invitation (which is a etiquette faux pa but i didn’t care) & on the RSVP card had (1) or (2) adult seats have been reserved in your honor.
We didn’t make the childcare info available b/c it’s really just a back up and didn’t want ppl to think that since it was there they could bring their kiddos
Post # 5
You can just put “Adults only please” on the cards
Post # 6
I don’t think you should give them an option. Just write on their invitation how many invites you have reserved for them (if that does/doesn’t include children). Go ahead and invite whatever kids you would like, but make it known to the couples whose children are not invited that they are… not invited. 🙂