Post # 1
My fiancé’s aunt was offended that we did not invite her 4 year old son to our wedding; she does not normally get a babysitter for him. We have made it clear from the beginning that we do not want children under the age of 6 at our wedding. It has gotten to the point that his grandmother will not attend unless we invite his 4 year old cousin. It is not fair to us to tell one family that their child can come and another family that their child cannot. In addition, I do not think it is fair for us to be threatened or given ultimatums. We do not want children at the wedding under 6. This is getting out of control! Are we being unreasonable?
Post # 3
It is YOUR wedding. I don’t think your being unreasonable but I really don’t like that his grandmother is refusing to attend. That isn’t right. I probably would end up letting the 4yr old come but then be bitter about it. Don’t let anyone bully you into doing something you don’t want to do, but i guess it comes down to what is more important to you having his grandmother there or not having the 4yr old? have you told his grandmother that your offended/ you just had a no kid under 6 policy?
I am only inviting children that are family. meaning family friends kids are a no go and geeez my fmil wasn’t too thrilled with that but too bad. I don’t feel like spending 100/ per child that I don’t even know.
Post # 4
You are not being unreasonable. Period.
For a lot of parents, their world revolves around their kids. No problem there. But when they want your world, and your wedding, to do the same… Um, no.
Post # 5
No, you are not being unreasonable. You cannot pick and choose which under-6 kids are allowed, you set the rule, made it known, and they are basically using emotional blackmail. It is time for your Fiance to talk to his family and make it clear that this is what HE wants (not just you) and that he won’t be manipulated into being rude to other guests like this.
Post # 6
No you’re NOT being unreasonable. It would be unfair for you to make the exception for this one child and not all the others. Hopefully your grandmother is only bluffing.
Post # 7
@vabride1103: I would do the same!