Post # 1
I love children, I can’t wait to have children. I just had to get that off my chest before my next thing. However, I don’t think I want to have children at my wedding. Our number for our reception is very set. My FI’s cousins (two different sets) have 4 children, all will be under the age of 3 at the time of our wedding. I don’t want to give seats away to children who won’t enjoy the wedding or reception let alone remember it when I could have friends who I do want to be there that would love the reception. My FI’s opinion on the situation is,"well if you don’t want to invite family to our wedding…" (in reference to the children who are his 2nd cousins). How should I approach this without starting a huge fight. I know it will be a battle with his parents as well. (In the end, I may end up giving in, but I would prefer to not have children).
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
My cousin was in a similar boat, and she decided to offer a "children’s reception" where after the ceremony, the parents could drop their kids off. Her reception was in a hotel ballroom (I’m sure you could adapt the location to suit your needs), so she rented a suite upstairs, found some trustworthy teens to babysit, and supplied movies, pizza, and party bags for the kids. It was perfect because the parents could check on their kids at any time, but could also enjoy the reception. I’m pretty sure the kids liked it better too. I plan to do the same thing at my own wedding- it is cost effective, and that way the kids can still be a part of other wedding-weekend activities.
Post # 4
Is it going to be a nighttime reception with alcohol? If so, it hardly seems appropriate to bring young children! I think you can try to make the case that it wouldn’t be enjoyable or appropriate for the children anyway and their parents would probably appreciate a night out on their own.
Post # 5
Let your fiancee know/remind him of the cost of each seat and who you will be eliminating from the wedding in order to accomodate children- "It will cost $xxx dollars to have all four kids there, and my friends Mary and Joe and your friends Ruth and Mark won’t be able to come" might be the realization that he needs.
Post # 6
It is going to be a nighttime wedding with alcohol and a live band. One set of the parents of the kids who might possibly come live in the town we are having our wedding at. The other set is from California. I understand they might bring them to town for the wedding but not to the wedding. Thanks for the advice, it is all very constructive and easy to explain to him 🙂
Post # 7
Offer to hire a babysitter. The parents will be happy to utilize that while they have fun at the reception, and that way you have technically invited the kids, and people can visit with them if they want to.