(Closed) Children at Wedding and Invitations…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

View original reply
brides2be2015:  A popular issue it seems. You probaly shouldn’t have included a kids menu if the kids weren’t invited as it confused people but I think you know that one. Still that doesn’t excuse people not checking to see who is actually invited. Call anyone who included extras and say that you are sorry for any confusion but only the people listed on the front of the envelope were invited and you are unable to accomodate others.

Post # 3
Member
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I personally don’t think there is anything wrong with letting them know, “so sorry but due to numbers we were only able to invite the immediate families kids, sorry for the confusion”  We hope you are still able to come.  Some people might be relieved that they don’t have to bring their kids… atleast my friends were. 

Post # 4
Member
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Uh oh. Yikes! How many kids would that be if they were actually invited? If it really isn’t a possibility, then you need to call each guest who RSVP’d their kiddos and let them know there was a misprint and only the kids of immediate family will be able to come. I think a lot of times, families don’t always look at who the invitation was addressed to especially if there is a kids menu available. Just be kind about it and apologize.

Post # 5
Member
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Call people up and just clarify that due to your budget only children of immediate family are invited .. the names on the envelope were the intended guest and make your apology about the confusion …

 same thing that sydney1982:  said

Post # 6
Member
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria

Just be honest, and appologize. I agree with what 

View original reply
sydney1982 said, too. 

Post # 7
Member
1782 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
brides2be2015:  I think it’s ok to call them up and explain… “We are so sorry if there was any confusion in how we addressed the invitation. We know the “kids option” might have caused some of that. Unfortunately we are unable to accommodate any children other than those of immediate family members. We understand if this is an inconvenience, but we still hope that you will be able to come celebrate with us.”

I had the same issue. After I printed RSVP cards with “kids option” on the back, I decided NO KIDS after seeing my niece and nephew scream like banshees at each other. So, what I did was, I printed out 25 new RSVP cards that didn’t have the “kids option” on it, and only gave the “kids option” RSVPs to people without children or people with 30 year old children lol. We also addressed the invitations “mr and mrs. smith” and didn’t include children in the address. We also included a little insert that said essentially “we can’t accommodate children, but we’ll be providing child care”.

Everything is not lost. It may be uncomfortable to explain, but if they have a problem with it, they don’t have to come.

Post # 10
Member
1821 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

View original reply
brides2be2015:  You made a huge mistake by adding a kids menu on the invitation. You should have added on your invites that it is a no kids except for immediate family wedding. Now you have to tell everyone on your invites list that they are no longer allowed to bring their kids. A lot of people will get offended and may decline. 

Post # 11
Member
3791 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We only invited kids who we were related to in some way (nephews and cousins kids), and only had one person ask why our RSVP had a children’s menu listed when we didn’t invite their child to the reception. But, our RSVPs also had how many seats we had reserved for them, which I think explained a lot. As shown:

You will probably end up having to call/email those that RSVP for more and explain that you cannot accomodate their children.

The topic ‘Children at Wedding and Invitations…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors