(Closed) Children further apart, not our choice. Happy stories wanted!

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My sister and I are 1 year apart, barely talk, and don’t get along! So please don’t think age gap has anything to do with whether or not siblings will be close!  

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

My brother is 3 years younger than me & my sister is 8 years younger than me. I’m actually much closer to my sister (especially since we’ve gotten older, the age gap doesn’t mean as much) than my brother. 

My husband has a brother 5 years younger than him & they are BFFs. 

It can work ๐Ÿ˜Š

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

DH’s brothers are 12 and 14 years older than he is. They get along great. They hang out, visit, etc. 

BFF”s kids are 6, almost 7 years, apart. They are 13 and 19 now. Yes, they argue and annoy each other like all siblings do, but they like each other and willingly do things together

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

ohmygoodgollygosh:  I have 3 siblings, which are 5, 7, & 12 years younger than I am….and we are all the best of friends!  My sisters always drove me nuts as kids, but even with a 12 year age gap, my brother and I were best buds.  When I was in college, he would come and spend the weekends with me, as a little kid.  My roommate loved him.  He was just the most relaxed and cool kid.  As adults, we’re all super close, even with the big age gaps. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My youngest sister is 10 years younger than me and she’s my favorite. We don’t text or call a lot (i live in a different state) but that’s changing as she gets older. I also have another sister who is 2 years younger than me and we’re really close too. I don’t think the age gap has much of an impact. It’s definitly more about personalities and how you raise them.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am four years older than my sister.  We are still really close.  We were always each other’s closest friends while growing up.  We are still close, though we live really far apart and life gets busy and we don’t talk as often as we should or like, but that has nothing to do with our ages, it is just a fact of being busy.  I think 4 or 5 years is great because then your son can really understand what it means to be a big brother and help out and look out for the younger sibling and really show them “how the world works” from a more “mature” perspective.  I helped teach my little sister to read.  We played “school” all the time so she could learn about what it looked like to go to school.  When she was in middle school, I helped her navigate through the drama and her first period.  I helped teach her to drive.  She came and visited me in college often so she could see the “college experience”.  I thought we were the perfect amount of years apart.  She’s now thinking about having her own kids and she wants them to be about as far apart in age as we were.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Im close in age with my siblings. We never were close and now we’re no contact. 

I do not believe age determines quality of sibling relationships.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

My Brother is 9 years older than me and my sister is 10.5 years older than me (all full siblings, no steps or halves)

They doted on me when I was little, but we drifted apart a little as I grew up.

Now that I’m in my 20s though, we’re growing closer again. My Sister is my Bridesmaid or Best Man ๐Ÿ™‚

My Sister had her first baby 14 years ago and had her 2nd last year. She’s expecting her 3rd this August ๐Ÿ™‚ My Nephew loves his baby brother to bits ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Busy bee

ohmygoodgollygosh:  Don’t have any relevant stories, I just wanted to say that I love your profile picture – hilarious and sweet all at once!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

My eldest brother is 14 years older than me and while we may not do the same things we get along great! I mean age isn’t really a factor since your two children could always find things in coming (ours was stealing each other’s food). Me and my sister on the other hand are closer in age, but we don’t really have anything in common at all. I think its just about the personality fit and how you involve them both in each other’s lives. Think homework helping the younger ones and whatnot.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

My sister is five years older than me.  I was her closest confidante growing up (and still am today).  We live in 200 miles apart now but talk at least once every day.  She’s my best friend, and she loved the way we grew up so much that she intentionally spaced her children 5 years apart just like we were.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My middle brother and I are 5.5 years apart and super close. He lives 45 minutes away from me yet we make time to see each other and spend time together at least once a month, sometimes more. There are so many factors that affect sibling relationships, you can’t really plan for or predict anything.

We also have an 11 year old half-brother. We have a unique relationship, but we’re about as close as a 28 year old sister and 11 year old brother can be lol.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

My oldest sister is 7 years older than me, and we’ve always had the strongest connection. I have a sister that is 2 years older than I am, and although we shared a room and spent lots of time together, I have always felt like I was in her shadow and my friends always liked her more than me. There was a thread not too long ago about having a bigger age gap between kids being a positive thing. The bond between siblings with a bigger gap can be very strong.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

The age difference between my two brothers is 5 and a half years. They are best friends, and have been for as long as I can remember (we are all in our 30s now). I have a friend who has an 11 year age difference with his closest sibling and they are great friends. 

I think it matters more on the dynamic you create in your family, than the ages of your kids that determines their relationship. I am sure you can think of siblings you know that are close in age that have shitty relationships. Age doesn’t dictate it.

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