(Closed) Children / no children dilemma please help!!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just let kids come.  Who cares?  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybe you should just ask why her mom isn’t coming, don’t bring up babysitting.

But if you don’t want kids at the wedding, then don’t let kids come. 

It’s up to you

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Pink Asawa:  As another person that does NOT want kids at my wedding I say wait until you know who is coming from his side before talking to her. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am not having any children at my wedding other then my 2 nephews (if my fiance had any nieces or nephews they would also be there). There would be way too many children to invite if we allowed it and we were trying to keep cost down. i think most people are ok with it and most wedding i’ve been too lately have been child-free.

If you feel these are people you really want to come you could talk to them but then understand if you allow some children to come who are not in the wedding you might want to consider inviting them all.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We were having a child free wedding, but since two of our guests have infants (both under 1 yr) and are traveling, we decided to make the exception for them.  We did email the rest of our guests that have children to explain the situation to them.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pink Asawa: I wouldn’t bring it up. You’re not obligated to  invite every child.  We’re having a mostly child free wedding, but have made exceptions for various circumstances – if other people whose kids weren’t invited don’t like it, I pretty much couldn’t care less.  We’re having our wedding in a hotel, there’s absolutely NO reason why children cannot stay in their rooms upstairs with babysitters we are willing to provide. 

Honestly, why anyone would want to take a child to a wedding is beyond me!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

So there are potentially already going to be 6 children there anyway, between the flower girls and out-of-country family, and if she brought her kids that would bump it up to 8, and there really are no other children among the other invitees (i.e. no other people with kids that you would need to worry about upsetting)?

I would just let her bring them, in that case. You gain very little by excluding these two kids, and if it matters to you to have your friend’s mom there, then that’s what it’s potentially costing you.

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