(Closed) children with adult meals

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I understand the frustration when everyone wants to push their opinions on you!

We were facing a similar dilema but ended up letting all the kids have “Adult” meals b/c we didn’t reach our minimum number of guests.  We were paying for 200 “adult” meals no matter what, so it just made sense to give them to the kids.

I find it interesting that they are pushing this on you.  Most of the kids I know would prefer chicken fingers to chicken saltimbocca anyway!! 

Are you having a seated reception?  If so, can you add a line to the RSVP cards for for kids meals? 

Post # 4
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Can you ask the recommendation of the caterer and stick to their age suggestion. If your family brings it up, just tell them that that’s what the caterer recommends. (sorata shifting your responsiblity to the caterer) My venue recommends ages 12 and under to get a kid’s meal.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it’s too early to make this decision – like Daisy Bride said – she ended up having to reach her minimum so everyone got adult meals. I also don’t think it should be up for discussion at all especially since you have so many nieces and nephews attending. They should either all get kids meals or all get adult meals and it should be up to you. Since when does anyone get to dictate how fancy their meal or their childrens meals will be at someone elses wedding?? I’ve never emailed a relative and said “You’d better include a beef option or else I’m going to think you’re tacky”. Just eat what’s put in front of you!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

yeah i’m sorry that people are pushing this on you. at the end of the day, it’s your money and your decision.  But seriously, I would get kids meals for the kids.  You are absolutely right about them prefering chicken fingers.  Kids have very simple palettes and i’m sure they’ll just pick at the adult entree they have and not actually eat it.  Go with your gut on this one.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, 12 and over for adult meals and under 12 for kids’ meals! I mean, hellooooo. Just tell them you aren’t paying for children to eat adult meals. Don’t do it

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

When I was little, I wouldn’t eat anything that I didn’t recognize as immediately familiar, and I don’t think I was terribly unusual in this. Get kids’ meals for the kids and let the adults get worked up about it if they have to… just don’t tell them and let them find out at the wedding. You can tell them you ordered adult meals for everyone and just let them get mad at the caterer on the day of! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I say, you’re the one paying for it and so therefore you are the one who gets final say.  Seriously, how many 8 year olds are eating adult entrees when they dine out with their own parents?  I have a feeling most of the mommies and daddies are not allowing their little darlings to order $45 entrees in nice restaurants.  ANYHOO… is there any way that your caterer can make a “child’s entree” that was similar to your adult entree?  Maybe something that was a little nicer than the usual chicken fingers but still not as fancy as the adult meal?  Maybe they could do it for a price that was a few dollars more than your children’s meal.

Or, you could just let your sister have the adult meals for her kids and then do kids meals for the rest. I think if anyone seriously notices, then they would assume it was a mistake made by your server/caterer and not a prearranged thing.  If your mom, sister, you, and Fiance say nothing then no one will ever know ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m all for sneaky food situations.  I’m serving coconut prawns at my wedding and fully intend on telling my Jewish Future Mother-In-Law that it was an emergency last minute subsitution that the kitchen had to make. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is ridiculous that these people insist that you get the kids “Adult” meals.  I think is so inconsiderate, considering that you’re paying for whole wedding.  Even though they don’t know the actual costs, it’s a presumption that a full size adult meal is more costly.  I also don’t think the kids can eat the entire adult proportion and that most of it would be wasted.  Also, children should just eat what they’re given, just because these people want to cater to the whims of children don’t mean you have to go out of your way to please them too.

It’s your wedding and people need to respect it.  It’s a wedding for god sake, people should not expect to only show up for a free meal and all you can drink bar.

I suggest you tell these people that the caterer insists that children 12 and under order from kids selections.  What they don’t know won’t hurt them nor drive you crazy.

Post # 11
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I say choose an age limit and STICK TO IT!!!!

No matter what anyone else says!!!!!

Post # 12
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Umm, no, I’m on your side and I would just honestly order kid’s meals for all the children who fall within a certain age range. Period. End of story.

On our reply card, we told guests point-blank that all children under the age of 12 would be getting a kid’s meal, and to please write how many children in each party were attending. We didn’t even give them a choice because honestly, we wanted to save the money (there was a $35 different between kid’s and adult meals with our venue). And I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that all kids in the age group would prefer chicken fingers to some fancy meal.

If I were you, I would stand firm, not mention it again, and if it comes up, just say it’s taken care of, per recommendations from your caterer/venue, and that you’d like to stop discussing it.

Post # 13
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5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Miss Root: I really hope that those coconut prawns are not part of the actual dinner and just part of the appetizer that your Future Mother-In-Law and any other people keeping kosher can avoid.  Religiously barred foods are a big deal to a lot of people.  I hope this doesn’t cause huge problems between you and your Future Mother-In-Law. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I like the “blame the caterer” idea.  Besides, the kids are only going to eat 5 bites of whatever you put in front of them and eat all of the leftover cake slices on your table.  Duhhhh

Post # 15
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Um, too bad if the kid gets upset because his older sister gets an adult meal. He’s 9, not 5. He needs to learn that life isn’t always fair…  and he probably won’t even like the adult menu.

Under 12 get a kids meal… especially if you have 20+ kids at the event. No questions about it! Just keep it simple and give them all kids meals.

My 16 year old brother requested the kids menu because he’s a picky eater & won’t touch anything on our menu lol. Mac & cheese, chicken strips & fries followed by a big bowl of ice cream… He just saved me $100 lol.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Recessionista!  that’s pretty funny, and very true.  I’m going to fudge our numbers for the buffet because I know my brothers (16,12,10) will just pick at the food and drink 6 sodas and have cake.  No way do they counted towards the numbers!

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