Post # 1
Is it alright that there are 6 children in the wedding, ring bearers 3 & 5 (groom’s 2nd degree cousins), flower girls, 5 & 6 (bride’s cousins) and ushers, 11 & 14 (bride’s cousins) are all invited to the wedding but not have any other people under 20-ish invited?
We really just wanted to exluded one great aunts 5 children (we don’t like the aunt or her kids) and by conquence we are also just not going to include anyone else’s children expect those 6 I mentioned earlier? Is that tacky? I made sure I gave them all jobs in the wedding & mentions in the program so that it would be clear they are all IN the wedding and that’s why they are invited.
Post # 3
Children in the wedding party are automatically an exception to any “no children” rule.
Post # 4
You can invite or not invite whoever you want. If you don’t want to invite her or her children, don’t invite them. Don’t not invite children that you would otherwise want there because of her.
Post # 6
@lechevalnoir: I personally find it extremely tacky to have a no kids wedding but have kids in the wedding party. I don’t think it’s right to pick and choose that way, and really wedding party shouldn’t be an exception to the no kids rule. To me its very much like giving +1’s to everyone except a select few, and many guests will find it rude when they see kids at the event.
Post # 7
@julies1949: +1. I’m not sure if it’s an actual etiquette thing, but it’s generally accepted that kids in the wedding party don’t count.
Post # 8
We aren’t inviting children EXCEPT my two ring bearers and my flower girl, so I think it’s fine. But their parents have already told me they are getting babysitters for them after the ceremony. The kids are welcome at the reception but apprently the parent’s are looking forward to a night off to party, which is fine too.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Why invite the great aunt at all if you don’t like her or her kids?
Post # 10
Yeah, the inviting her or not isn’t a me decision, that’s a fiance decision and his mother won’t let that happen. She already pitched a fit when she thought that she didn’t get invited to my bridal shower (which she did) and his mother took it upon herself to just invite her without even double checking with me first.
Without the children it’s a 75 member reception, with all the kids under 21 included it’s 100 people. That’s a pretty big change budget wise when you think about the food (even at half price for kids under 11), around 1,500! My budget is only 10k sooo yeah., that’s prompting this question as well.
I just just wondering what every one was thinking. I don’t judge for having them or not having them. Just wondering. =)
Post # 11
Love kids! Hate them at weddings 🙁
Post # 12
I dont understand why it would be considered tacky if you have kids in the wedding but not invited. I love children and have raised several but I personally dont want them at my wedding. I am not having a flowergirl or ringbearer, I have been to several weddings and receptions when they cry, run and bump into guest, and lay on the floor.
I think it is your wedding and you can do what you want and there is no etiquette for children in regards to those in the wedding party and those that are not invited.