Post # 16
So we do have some family and friends with babies that are still nursing and we had to no to them as well…
1) We felt it was wrong to tell some people they could bring their children and others couldn’t.
2) Some of the people with babies that are still nursing have other children too and did not want to get into the argument that they could bring the baby and not the others.
It has really been crazy and we are by no means trying to hurt anyone’s feelings we are just trying to make it as fair for everyone as possible.
Post # 17
I could have written this post myself! We’re having an adult only ceremony/reception and my sister threw us a couple’s shower a few weeks ago. My sister didn’t specify no children, but when people asked she said they could bring their children, but it wasn’t really child friendly. It was in the evening, there was drinking, etc. It more closely resembled an engagement party. Luckily, no one brought their kids.
However, we received a ton of push back from FI’s family about it. A lot of them were upset that the event wasn’t child friendly. I don’t even understand that. My sister planned an event that she thought Fiance and I would enjoy. Not an event she thought our family’s children would enjoy.
Don’t cave. Don’t invite them.
Post # 18
haha that does sound VERY similar to my situation! I feel bad and then I dont and then I feel bad again. I think I am just ready for it to be over with.
Post # 19
I’ve never been to a bridal shower with small children. They are generally set up so they’d be SUPER boring for kids.
Post # 20
This sounds like a huge shower!
I would personally just skip b/c spending $70 on a sitter + a gift isn’t something i’d do unless this was like my best friend. It’s obviously people’s choice to have children and then need to foot the bill for sitters. It’s just tough to have to do it for both a shower and then a wedding shortly thereafter.
I’ve had friends throw quite the adults only drinking game oriented shower for a younger bride to be. I skipped out because it wasn’t worth getting a sitter to sit around and watch a bunch of ladies get drunk. I still had to go home to my kids and would not be able to participate.
If this is the type of party your friends want to throw and this is the type of party you want, then tell the complaining family you’ll miss them!
Post # 21
It’s definitely fine–your party so you can dictate your own rules. Understand that people might not be able to come, but that’s their prerogative as well. 🙂 win-win for all!
For showers at my family and friends circle, everyone in the family unit is invited. Rarely do the kids ever stay in the room with the adults, they usually find it boring for them and prefer to play outside with the other Kids! Lol guess we’re not all that interesting when there’s a huge yard of possibilities.
Post # 22
It’s your shower so you call the shots. Personally any showers I’ve been to with children have been obnoxious. Sorry.
I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my friends wedding this fall and her shower was the weekend. The 3 little girls there were literally laying on her lap and grabbing her gifts while their mothers just ignored them and chatted in the corner. The brides mother and family members kept asking the girls to sit down or move so they could see to take pictures but they didn’t listen.
This was similar to the situation at my other friends shower several years ago. No thanks.