Post # 1
My friend is having one of these. Honestly, I’ve never heard of this particular theme. I always thought of those gifts as more of the actual wedding gifts. I was planning to get her one of her $120 china sets for the wedding and a much smaller shower gift. Well now I’m checking out her registries and nothing is in my normal $30 shower range unless I get her like one silver knife. Even her crystal is like $80 for one glass and her china platters are at least $90. Mugs are $50 each. Any suggestions? Think opening one mug at the shower would be weird? Or can I give her a plate at the shower and complete the set for the wedding? Or should I just say no to the shower?
Oh and I also know that she gave me about $70 in total shower and wedding gifts for my wedding last week and her parents (dad’s a plastic surgeon) gave us about $150 in gifts. But we’re broke post wedding now, so there’s no way I can give $220 back.
Post # 4
What I would do is give her a gift card for the shower (maybe $50.) and give either a place setting for the wedding or 2 mugs. One is a little odd to receive or give,I think.
Are there seperate serving pieces that are less? Any candlesticks you could get in crystal? Maybe salt & pepper shakers? You can always shop off registry to find what she wants cheaper,too.
Post # 5
I like the gift card idea. Or get her one mug and something that goes with it–a set of nice tea or something. Just because someone throws a shower aimed at expensive gifts does not mean you should break your budget. The other thing you can do is deduct what you spend for the shower from the total amount you planned to spend and give her a smaller wedding gift. I say stick to your guns on this!
Post # 6
I like the idea that Vonnegurl had about the mug and the tea. I would say shop off registry… someplace like tablewareetc.com…I have found good sale prices.
Post # 7
A friend of mine just suggested china protection covers for the shower. I think that might be a good idea. I know I needed them badly after I inherited my china.
Post # 8
Update: Got an invitation to her couples Tool shower today. Its two weeks after the china shower. There are a lot more tools in my price range than china. Would it be okay to give her a nice card and some of those $5 “I Do” shoe rhinestones at the china shower and then a good tool at the couples shower? I’m thinking the rhinestones kinda go with the crystal theme, and I’ve always heard that you shouldn’t expect mulitple gifts if you invite the same people to multiple showers. Is that true? I’ll still get her some nice china for the wedding, but I just need a few more paychecks to recover from my wedding before I splurge on that.
Post # 9
I think your last post makes sense. What about a crystal paper weight or something for the shower. I like your idea of thinking out of the box for this first shower. Maybe a really nice silver picture fram (even just one from Ross, TJMax, etc).
I think its fine if you want to spend more at the other shower.