Post # 1
My Dad is in China on business right now. He says the Chinese people he has met over there treat foreigners really well. In fact, one of the engineers he works with in the factory invited him to their daughter’s wedding that was today. They had my dad sit at the head table next the the bride and groom! I told my dad he should have declined; I don’t know why he didn’t. My dad was dressed in factory clothes (jeans) at the wedding.
This just seem crazy to me. Is that really the culture in China? They really don’t mind some foreigner they don’t know sitting next to them at the head table?
Post # 3
I don’t know about that….
Usually the new couple and their parents sit in the headtable. The headtable will have 10 seats, so some other significant people sit in the remaining seats. i.e. grandma, grandpa, bride’s uncle…etc.
Never heard of anyone invite foreginer to sit in the headtable…
Post # 4
I’m Chinese and it sounds odd to me too. But it sounds like a kind gesture or show of respect. Is your dad the boss or a higher up in the company? The bride’s dad was probably just trying to show respect to the boss. Maybe he thought it would be turned down. Or he could be treating his daughter’s wedding as a way to schmooze with the boss? Either way I imagine the daughter is probably fuming!
Post # 5
@amariem25: I’m chinese and this is definitely not normal. The head table is reserved strictly for immediate family, at least that’s the case at all the family weddings I’ve been to! I agree with Cola262: Is your dad the CEO or high executive at the company? This sounds like a huge sign of respect towards your dad.
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Post # 7
I’m not sure how it goes in the mainland, but old chinese people I know here like to invite EVERYBODY to celebrations, even people they don’t really know too well. So he just probably invited your dad because he was really happy and wanted everyone to celebrate / show off. As for the sitting at the head table – he might have realized that it would be awkward for your dad to sit at another table if he didn’t know anyone else.