Post # 1
So, I am chinese marrying an Italian/English guy. We’re not having the traditional chinese wedding and reception, however, I would like to incorporate the chinese tea ceremony. For past brides that had tea ceremonies in a non traditional chinese wedding, did you have it before the ceremony? during the reception?
Post # 3
@jenjen96: i’m not married yet but i’ve seen it done a lot of different ways. i’ve seen people incorporate it during the american reception (before the start of the dinner meal). I’ve also seen folks do it at the brides home before the ceremony even begins (or the night before). I think this path is taken because in old old tradition you don’t do the tea ceremony for the bride’s family in public. But I think the reason why people do it now (at home without nonfamily) is cuz the Fiance is not Chinese and his family may not be interested in receiving tea.
Post # 4
I’m having mine right before the reception, after the ceremony! That’s also how I’ve seen it done. My Fiance is super white and he’s up for any tradition I throw at him. Lol.
Post # 5
I actually have the same issue.
But I was actually thinking I will incorperate the tea ceremony during the american ceremony. My Fiance is white as well. I will just be serving my mother since my father passed. So since I’m only serving to my mother I figured I would turn around with my Fiance and serve tea to her.
What do you think? Would love your opinion.
Post # 6
My Fiance is white, and I am half Chinese, so I wasn’t sure if we were going to do a tea ceremony or not. But my mom and my aunt brought it up and they thought my grandparents would appreciate it, so we are planning on doing it at the hotel where we will likely to all be staying. We will be doing it before the ceremony, probably around early afternoon (ceremony at around 4:30).
I am counting on my aunt to arrange everything because I have NO IDEA how it works, beyond serving tea to our elders… so many different descriptions out there… I just want something very simple.