- 4 years ago
Yes a dowry is still tradition to some families. I know both my cousins in China had to pay dowrys. We are from a big city so it’s not like its only in the villages. And the groom’s side of the family is the one that pays for the banquet. Traditionally, there is two banquets, but more commonly just one nowadays. One for groom’s family, one’s for brides. As for the red envelopes, I’ve seen where the couple keeps the money, after paying back the family for the banquet. I’ve seen the bride’s family keeping all the money and I’ve seen if there is a joint banquet, the brides family keeps the money from her side and the groom keeps the money from his. Sometimes it is basicly a money making thing since traditionally, the bride is no longer part of her family and goes to the groom’s family so theres compensation for the bride’s family. Also because of the one child rule in China, when the bride leaves for the groom’s family, who will take care of the bride’s parents when they are old and can’t work? A lot of marriages in China is all about money.