(Closed) Chipping in for bridesmaid dresses

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Have you talked to them about their budget? 

I’m sorry but there is no way I would pay that much for a dress for a wedding. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

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pnp2014 :  That depends on each persons budget, sorry! $225 is much better than $285 though. I would have a hard time paying that much for a dress that I will never wear again. But some people are able to spend more than me, so that could be the norm in some groups.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Yes, I think it makes sense for you to pitch in. Especilly if someone may not alterations that is an additional cost plus $285. I would suggest you  talk to your bridemaids about their budget.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

It depends on your girls. I would not be able to afford a dress for that price, especially if it’s only for 1 day. But if they can afford it go for it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

That’s only ok if $225 is still within their budget. And keep in mind their budget needs to include allowance for alterations, tax, shoes if specific ones are required, accessories if specific ones are required, etc. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You need to discuss with each Bridesmaid or Best Man in private what her budget is. Pick your dress AFTER doing this, going off the cheapest budget.

$225 is too expensive for me for a 1 time Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

That’s way too much, even if you “chip in.” 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree that unless your BM’s travel in different social and financial circles than I do, $225 plus alterations might still be too much for a bridesmaid dress. Have you had a private discussion with each Bridesmaid or Best Man about her budget? Is this a dress they will be able to get a lot of use from in the future? Or, does it have “bridesmaid” stamped all over it?

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would pay for 85$ on each so it came out to 200$ and then tell each of them to come to you privately if they need help beyond that. Have you tried eBay? I wanted a stupid expensive floral Amsale dress for my BMs but it was over 300. I found each one (6!)  new with tags on eBay for between 35-75$ and I just paid for all of them. We bought the groomsmen suits too. It just doesn’t feel right to pick something for other people to buy even if it’s tradition. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

$285 – $50 is $235, not $225…I wouldn’t be happy to pay that for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, I’m afraid.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Well, what’s the budget that your BMs are comfortable with paying? If you didn’t have that convo with them, then don’t assume even with chipping in, they’re able to afford a $235 dress. 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I paid the deposit (50% of the dress cost) for all my girls because I thought a $200 dress for one night would be absurd to ask them to pay.  I’m sure they’ll be grateful for anything you can contribute.

(ETA: I don’t think $200 is a lot for a bridesmaid dress and would be on par with what I expected to pay.  But I think I’m odd-man out here with that.)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

$225 is still way too much to ask them to spend. Out of pocket cost is going to end up being higher with alterations, too. I’d try and cap the bridesmaids dresses at an absolute MAX of $200 (though $150-175 is way more reasonable).

I tried to keep costs low for my bridesmaids too because I realized that they’d never wear the dresses again and found vowtobechic.com online- its like rent the runway but for bridesmaids dresses. The girls got a really high quality Jenny Yoo dress for about $100 total cost. The quality was honestly a lot better than the dresses I saw in stores. Its worth a look.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I think it depends on everyones finances- yours and your bridesmaids. I would be happy paying for that if that was the total amount and I could wear my own shoes etc but I’m not your Bridesmaid or Best Man… what do they think? When we went looking for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for my wedding, we looked at dresses up to $150 and I said that I would pay anything over that if she (I only have one!) fell in love with an expensive dress…

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