(Closed) Choosing a bridal party – HELP!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Stick with what you have. Simple and easy. I have five bridesmaids but if I could go back I’d only have two of my sisters. Not a major regret but still. Congrats! 😄

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would probably ask Sam but not kelly, given kelly’s busy-ness and money problems. I think it would be nice to have a long time friend as one. But if you decide just to have the two I don’t think it’s a problem!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Only you can decide what’s best for you. But my advice would be keep your bridal party small and keep it to the people you are really close to. Also, with your limited budget, having a small party is smarter. The cons would be; less help with planning, and less people at your bachelorette party. Not sure how you are going to do your ceremony, but maybe Sam and Kelly can be included in some way in that. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would keep it simple at 2. If you re not in regular contact with the other two, that is not going to change because you are getting married.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think just the 2 you are currently close with.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Keep the 2. That’s all. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What are your friends like?

Wedding Bee is full of threads of brides who asked old friends – who they’d drifted away from but felt obliged to ask – to be bridesmaids, and it’s a disaster. Because all the differences which led to drifting apart in the first place resurface during the wedding planning. That friend who she drifted away from because she’s flakey, is still flakey as a bridesmaid. That friend who she drifted away from because she’s a stubborn opinionated b*tch, turns out to be a stubborn opinionated bridesmaid. So beware.

On the other hand, in real life, I’ve never seen bridesmaid problems. All my friends are easygoing and have been delightful bridesmaids, in all the weddings I’ve been close to.

So, you know your friends. Though I’m a fan of small bridal parties, and only had 2 bridesmaids (including MOH) myself, you should be fine so long as your friends are good friends. If, on the other hand, you drifted away from them because they’re difficult, then absolutely do not ask them.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I’d probably stick with your sister and his sister. I would invite both Sam and Kelly to the wedding, but I think I would draw the line at asking them to be bridesmaids – bridesmaids are supposed to be your nearest and dearest so, whilst I’m sure these girls are lovely, you’ve already said that you just aren’t that close anymore.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I’d stick with the two. If you’ve drifted from your other friends I wouldn’t include them. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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selissal :  If you’ve lost touch, I would say no. I think it makes sense to keep it small with the two sisters. It also makes things a lot less complicated.

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