(Closed) Choosing a MOH! Need non-bias advice

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Well, I think whether a someone would be able to help with the wedding is not a major deciding factor for picking a MOH/BM.  I think Maid/Matron of Honor should be someone who you really want to be right next to you during the ceremony. My Maid/Matron of Honor is out of state and she can’t help me much but she’s still the person who I’d want as my Maid/Matron of Honor.  It’s hard to just pick one girl based on your description.  Go with your gut feelings. It doesn’t sound like you consider Betsy as your close friends now, so if you were to make me pick one, I’d probably pick Lola.  Also, when is the wedding?  Don’t choose BMs yet if your wedding is still far away, as relationships changes as time goes by. 

Post # 4
12392 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Why not do co- maids of honor?  You can explain to Betsy that you’re having 2 Maid/Matron of Honor b/c you need someone local to help you with wedding tasks. 

Post # 5
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with mouse… why not have two MOHs? Although, that can also cause turmoil amongst the two if they don’t know each other and aren’t the type to get along with anyone…

And who says only your Maid/Matron of Honor can help you on the tasks you want to accomplish? You Maid/Matron of Honor should be the person you most want standing beside you, possibly signing as witness to your marriage.

Post # 6
2681 posts
Sugar bee

I would choose Lola.  I had the same thing and I picked the friend that I was friends with longer – Im not upset I did and Im happy she was my Maid/Matron of Honor but I wish I wouldve picked my newer friend because we are closer, see each other almost every day and I am her Maid/Matron of Honor.  Dont pick out of obligation, you will regret it.  Otherwise if you cant pick I would make both of them MOH’s.  Is one married? You could have a Maid and Matron of Honor.

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