- 6 years ago
So this is going to sound kinda strange / funny but here it goes. Ive mentioned in other threads that i have not yet picked my wedding party because i am short on very close girlfriends and my close ones dont LIVE cloes lol Anyways, my first thought when engaged was i want my brother to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and im fine with the non traditional aspect of that…. my only reservation about it is…well, my brother is kind of…what’s the word…lol
unpredictable, unpresentable and well, unreliable.
now let me first say, i have 2 brothers and i am close to both of them, but def one more than the other… we lived together throughout college and we’ve always been fairly close and can basically talk to each other about anything and everything. he’s always been a kind of lazy unreliable person…. well its progressively gotten worse over the years and he is now MUCH worse. i mean he is 32 yrs old and is living one shut off notice to the next and mainly because he’s lazy and doesnt try to change his situation. Now his financial situation has nothing to do with me and my wedding, altho id be lying if i wasnt concerned about him planning my bach party lol but id even figure that out. my MAIN concern, well….he’s kind of a hippy and i mean not just having long hair (which i dont mind as lots of my guy friends do) but he is a hippy in the full sense of every way youd think. he stinks. there i said it! he smells so bad and its BEYOND embarassing….i mean when he comes over i dont even want to be in the same room its that bad….
but how on earth can i have someone who smells SO bad in my wedding as my MOH! i love him and he is so close to me and when i told him i was thinking about making him my Maid/Matron of Honor *i made it clear i was just THINKING about it and undecided* he said he was SO excited about it and if i decide to he’d be honored and love it! but honestly im so concerned with his smell and idk how to tell him my concern without hurting his feelings. HELP! lol
now i dont have to make him a brides-man and i can pick someone else but im more close to him than any of my girlfriends and i know it would mean alot to both of us, but i can not get past the smell and feelnig scared of how it will turn out with him in such an important roll… esp since he’s very unreliable. UGH…family you love them and you hate them lol
told you this was a weird problem…..