(Closed) Choosing a wedding venue is hard!

posted 4 years ago in Venue
  • poll:
    Okay venue - I mean, no one would know there was a better option, except us? : (32 votes)
    94 %
    Amazing venue - I mean, let's blow this outta the water because we're only doing this once, right? : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Other - I'll explain it in the comments. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    8489 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’d go with the okay one. I couldnt justify going 30k over budget for one day.

    Post # 4
    1478 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted amazing venue because you are only doing this once, however, I also don’t think it will look great if you spend all this money on a lavish and amazing venue, but then other details like the centerpeices and the photographer aren’t up to par.

    In your case, I would probably keep looking. You don’t want to go with the “just okay” venue because it obviously isn’t up to your standards and you will always be thinking about the better options that are out there.



    Post # 5
    2895 posts
    Sugar bee

    @LAB:  30K over budget ? That would not work for me. Your money, your decision, but I think the difference of price is insane and I could never justify to spend that much extra cash for a few hours of my life.  

    Maybe you both have trouble sticking to the 1rst venue because you’re comparing oranges and apples. It’s just like when you shop for dress. If your budget is 5K, don’t try on the 30K dress. You’ll want the 30K dress, and never again will you look at other dresses without regretting not having purchased the 30K dress. It’s solely emotion speaking, not rationality. 

    Maybe visit more venues within your price range, so you can actually see the first one has everything you were looking for. 


    Post # 6
    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @LAB:  $30k over budget is just way too much IMO. But it’s not my money. I fell like the amazing venue isn’t worth sacrificing a good photographer, band, etc.

    Post # 8
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I’m curious what the differences in the two venues are? Location? Decor? Food? Views? 

    Post # 9
    1214 posts
    Bumble bee

    @LAB:  I think you should go with the “okay” venue and spend all that extra money making it an awesome and special party. In the end, the venue is just a room, even if it is a spectacular one. The food, the music, the decor – all of that is so much more noticeable to me. 

    Post # 10
    303 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @LAB:  i’d put that 30 grand towards the marriage, not the wedding. Your ‘okay’ venue will be more than okay once you have it decorated for your wedding. 

    Post # 11
    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yikes! I didn’t spend 30k on the entire thing – so I’d say OK venue. A venue is a backdrop for your details that are really your personality. You can make it your dream venue and kick off married life with that extra 30k.

    Post # 12
    524 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I’d rather have the money after the fact (or to spend on the honeymoon!). Spending all your money on the venue and having to skimp on the other stuff will be more noticeable than throwing an amazing party in a mediocre venue.

    Post # 13
    8701 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I said the okay venue and not because of the 30k venue (its NY so I understand!) BUT because of how much you would sacrifice to have it. I couldnt sacrifice all of that. 

    Post # 14
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I voted “Okay venue” only because I wouldn’t want to skimp on photography and videography.

    Post # 15
    3248 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @LAB:  Well, I think I’d rather go with an okay venue than spend THAT MUCH over budget– holy cow, $30K?! That said, could you find a venue that’s somewhere in between the two? I wouldn’t want to be married at a place I found “just okay,” but I think being able to afford nice things for the reception and a live band would make the event a lot nicer than having at an amazing venue, but perhaps needing to skimp on decor and entertainment/music. 

    If you need to save money, the videographer would be the first thing I’d cut from the list of things you want, wherever you have it. However, I think it’s pretty rare to not care about having a wedding video.

    Sounds like you need to think it over a little longer and look around a bit more before making the decision. Figuring out the venue is the hardest part of the planning, I think!


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