Post # 1
Okay, I’m having ring troubles. Bear with me…
I would love to use my great-grandmother’s ring, but I talked to SO and he really wants us to get a new ring that will be “special to both of us.” Which is reasonable, but I’ve been having anxiety attacks about picking a ring. For one thing, I have issues with buying new things. I’m pretty minimalistic and I like using things I already have rather than buying new. For another, I have to find one before we can get engaged, and it’s just so HARD. And SO is unenthused whenever I show him a ring. He wants to like the ring we get, but he picks apart every ring I send his way. At the same time he doesn’t know what he DOES like, just that there’s some little thing wrong with whatever it is. He says to pick some that I like and he’ll just pick his favorite out of them, but I can’t help but think about whether he’d like it or hate it. Every time I think I have a final list, I find something wrong with one or all of them (It won’t fit with a wedding band! It’s too weird and people won’t think it’s an e-ring! What if it doesn’t look as good in person/on my hand?!) and freak out. I feel like giving up. If it were up to me we’d just use a ring we already have… at least then I’d stop killing myself over the issue. It doesn’t help that I literally have OCD.
Here is my task: Make a list of multiple rings (so that I’ll be surprised at what he picks), under $1000 (picked arbitrarily by me because he won’t give a price range), preferably on the internet (because that’s always how we shop and it’s generally cheaper).
I’m stuck and would really love some advice. Should I go to a real jewelry store and try some on just to see? How can I narrow things down? How many should I give him in my list? Are there sites I should look at? How do I keep from going crazy? Is this method completely dysfunctional? I want something low maintenance (so no pave, even though I love the look, because I can’t handle diamonds potentially falling out). I love sapphires, and emeralds are nice too, but I’m definitely not opposed to diamonds. I like a lot of vintage or vintage-look rings.
Here are three that I like right now (it changes frequently though ).
Post # 3
I strongly encourage you to go shopping together. Especially for boys who likely haven’t spend much time looking at rings, it can help to see them in person.
Also, if you love the idea of using your family ring, can you just change the setting, or pick out a wedding band together? Maybe when he sees how expensive rings are he will think again about turning down a free one.
Post # 4
SO is very adamant that he doesn’t want to use the free one, but I’ll bring up the wedding band thing with him. I wish he would change his mind! My BFF is making me go to a jewelry store this weekend to scope things out. I’m just afraid they won’t have anything but the usual plain diamond rings, or that they’ll be way too expensive for us. I could get SO to come ring shopping with me after that if it goes well.
Post # 5
@Zesty: i’d push a little harder for the budget if i were you. i had trouble doing that, but everyone here on the bee told me “you’re getting married, you have to be able to talk about money” and they were right!
@houstonwhodat: +1 to everything she said.
Post # 6
@Zesty: don’t worry about it if they on;y have diamonds, at least you can see what you like!
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I love the first sapphire! Its beautiful!!!!
I’m stuck and would really love some advice. Should I go to a real jewelry store and try some on just to see? YES!!!! That is exactly what you should do! Have him come with you!
Post # 10
oh, hello there fellow antique lover of rings. You will certainly like mine if you like those….
All of those are great choices, and a tough pick. I’m going with 1 and 2, but I do like the geometry of 3. 1 and 2 are more sparkly, and I can’t help it, I love shiny. Do go and try some on. We looked on Etsy a great deal since there is such an outstanding variety of antique rings. It was great to have my fiance looking at them because he really understood what I liked. We ultimately bought a ring at an antique jewelry shop. If you’re near NC I’ll tell you the place, I highly recommend the place. (btw, we didn’t break the bank on our purchase, it was 1500 max)
Post # 11
I love the second ring you posted.
Post # 12
The first one from etsy is gorge I LOVE it.
Post # 13
I love that second one! Gorgeous!
Post # 14
I like the third one! It looks the most vintage (looks like it has a lot of history)
But if you want a little modern flare along with being vintage I would pick 1 or 2