(Closed) Choosing an Engagement Ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t know exactly how much it cost, though I know it’s probably more than what I would have allowed us to spend if I picked it… which answers your second question – I didnt get to decide it was perfect for me since I had no say.

Since you get to make the choice, honestly, I think no matter what you choose, you’ll probably end up second guessing yourself.  My only advice is to make a decision, and stay true to it.  If you get the dream expensive ring, dont turn around one day and go, I should have got the smaller one, what waste of money, etc.  Though, if you choose the very cheap one now… at least you wouldn’t lose out too much if you regret it and decide you want to upgrade to the dream ring.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think people might be more willing to answer the questions in a poll versus actually a comment. Maybe add a poll with ranges so people can vote?

Also, it’s hard to tell what is expensive for one person and not for another so I’m not sure if cost should affect evenly across the board. For example, what is expensive for one person may be very affordable to another. I think the average in the United States is roughly $4k right now. Or course there are the ones that are extremely high above that (celebrities and such) and those who are lower. 

How did we decide?

I had a general idea about what color and clarity I wanted in the ring. We went to the store and saw what looked good on my hand. Iniitally I thought i wanted an emerald but that turned to a cushion which resulted into a round! My fiance and I worked to find a diamond that was right for me and what we both were comfortable with. This was the hardest part of the process because I’m very near sighted and can see inclusions easily. My fiance is very color sensitive and can see warmth in stones lower than a G. It was about compromising on what we both were comfortable seeing on my finger for the rest of our lives together.

As for the setting, we originally planned on getting a plain tapered shank solitaire for the diamond. However, I have always dreamed of Tacori rings so one day a store in our mall opened that carried them so we walked in and tried a few on. I looked at a few and nothing seemed to WOW me. Then fiance chose one that caught his eye and I completely ignored. Once it was on my finger we both just KNEW that it was the setting and that I would most likely look at the solitaire in the future thinking it was too boring and not unique enough for me. 

So we worked on the diamond together and once we found it, he chose my setting based on a general direction I wanted. I never expected that I would like what he chose but I love it! Sometimes I second guess myself and think I should get a solitaire but then this is me and this is what he chose for me. I love it!

What I would do in your situation – I would go and get the elaborate setting first because it’s a lifetime investment and in the future I don’t want you to go and always think about the other ring. Go with what you love and so you have no regrets in the future. Only you know what you will or will not regret and what makes your heart sing each time you see it. 

OR you could let him make the choice for you and propose with it and be surprised when he does.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If you found a ring that you love, ask the jeweler if they have the same design in a smaller carat size. 

When we went shopping for my ring, I knew exactly what I wanted. The first store we went to, they only had the ring I wanted in a 3 carat version.  DH looked like a deer in the headlights when they told him how much it cost on sale.  It was not only too expensive, but I wasn’t thrilled with how large it was on my small hands… 

We kept shopping, until we found the exact same ring in a 1 carat version that was almost perfect. In the smaller size, I didn’t think there was enough definition between the center stone and the two side stones.  But once we had them put a larger stone in the center it was perfect, and the price was much more reasonable. 

We also found it in a 2 carat version, which I loved by itself, but I hated how it looked with wedding bands…

Most jewelers have different carat weight rings in the same styles, so ask. You might be surprised. 

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@NolloUK: Here is another thread that show the prices in a poll!!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That’s a HUGE price difference. I think if I were you I’d keep looking…I imagine that with with a bit of effort you could find something that maybe has a more reasonable price, but still have the wow that you want. Could you show us the styles that you’re looking at? Maybe we can help look:)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My ring was a little under $20k. I knew that I wanted a 2 carat round cut diamond. I wanted something with a classic looking band but with a little more interest to it. There were only a few choices of settings that could expand to fit a two carat setting, so I picked the one I liked the best. By The Way, I paid for the ring so I didn’t feel bad saying that I wanted a 2 carat ring.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@NolloUK:  Hurray!!! I’m so happy I could help!  Don’t forget to post a picture when you get it!!!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@NolloUK: That is quite a big difference. Also, i realized the link didn’t post properly and now i’ve lost the link so I apologize. 

I think the other poster’s idea is fantastic to ask if they had the ring in a smaller carat size to really balance out between the two!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

All I have to say is check out http://www.since1910.com

I’m not sure what your taste is but I’ve always been a Tacori fan, Always knew that I wouldn’t settle for anything less. Thankfully my fiance and I are open about everything possible. He let me have the choice to pick out my diamond because he knows I’m super picky I also gave him a choice of three different settings to keep it a surprise for when he actually did propose. When I went into an authorize dealer here they quoted us 9500$ for the same ring I have now, 0.75 ct, G color, SI clarity. I thought that was ridiculous for that kinda money I wanted a one carat. So I went researching. Found a http://www.since1910.com they sell a couple pretty popular brands and they’re an authorized tacori dealer. I picked out my own diamond and had my Fiance put it on hold he did the rest. ANYWAYS. My Ring now is a 1.30 Carat, G color, VVS1. I think the best part is that my Fiance only paid a little over 9 grand for the ring but when we had it appraised they said it was worth 20 grand. HUGE difference.. all I can do is praise since1910.com and recommend it to anyone and everyone looking for e-rings or wedding bands!

 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper

I agree with August2011Bride can you find something that is perhaps in the middle or a slightly smaller version of the dream ring? That way you won’t be busting your budget but still have something amazing and close to the ideal ring.

My E-Ring cost was also a little under 20K and we went to the custom route. I knew I wanted something big and flashy so our cost was higher. I don’t regret it because he had saved the money for it so it wasn’t a huge expense that was looming over our heads.

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