Is it possible that part of the reason you feel little physical spark with Guy A because you have that with Guy B?
Sometimes, when one is dating and is very aware of what one wants and is being cautious about finding out who the other person really is, it can take a couple dates (in my experience) for more than mild physical attraction to surface. When I met my SO, when I first saw him, I thought he was attractive, but he didn’t make me swoon at first encounter like my most recent ex had. My SO and I met at a social dance, talked, but he didn’t ask me out, so I forced myself to forget about him, and then when we saw each other 2 weeks later at the next dance, he did ask me out. At that point I was interested, but exercising extreme caution, and did not feel that much of a spark. Our first official date was lovely and fun and we connected on a lot of levels, but I didn’t feel a great deal of chemistry. The next date after that was completely different– we had astounding chemistry and attraction. It just took some getting to know each other and thinking things over/deciding if the other person was someone we wanted to pursue. 4 years later, we are talking about when to get married. 🙂
I think PP have an excellent point when they ask (if you are looking for a long-term partner) which guy you would rather go through some difficult event or accident with. Also, which one, if either, do you find yourself thinking “I love you” at secretly?
If I were you and I was looking for a life partner, I would get to know both guys more before choosing. See who you start falling in love with, but consider the practical things as you are doing too. If I were you and I was just looking for a very short-term relationship, I would pick Guy B because of the passion and greater connection. Even though I personally am now wary of men who are enthusiastic about intensely relating their emotions and past to someone they recently met. 3 of them I’ve encountered have turned out to be self-absorbed, pretty badly messed up, and 2 of those have been the gossipy type you couldn’t trust. BUT that is a sampling of guys I’ve actually met, and because the first of those three is an ex of mine, I’m biased. I don’t like the sound of him being jealous after a few dates– my mind kind of jumps to “possibly controlling” when I heard that.
If you chose Guy A to try for a long-term relationship with, do you think you could be attracted to him? Do you think that if Guy B wasn’t in the picture at all, you’d be more physically attracted to Guy A? I would hate to be in a long-term relationship with someone who I didn’t start out having extraordinary passion with, just because the most intense feelings do go away over time and it’s nice to have a fairly high level of attraction even after a number of years!
Wow, that was long. Sorry.