- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015
Hi all, just signed up and this is my first post..
Im soon to be engaged.. (ring has been purchased just waiting for the special day!!) however i know as soon as im engaged ill immediately be asked who im having as bridesmaids.. ive already been asked numerous times but im able to brush it off because im not yet engaged! one would think its simple to choose, however im completely torn! ive thought loong and hard and spoken to Boyfriend or Best Friend and my mum about it and we just can’t come up with a solution without offending someone or having a large uneven bridal party..
firstly we are definitely going to ask my two sisters (one will be MOH) and his sister as well as his two best friends (from o/s) and my brother.
heres were it gets complicated, i have my two childhood friends (one is from oot and i was her Maid/Matron of Honor for 2yrs ago) i couldnt imagine not having them by my side! furthermore my mum is insisting i ask my brothers wife (i was her Bridesmaid or Best Man last year) im not so close to her and to be quite frank shes an incredibly difficult person and hard to get along with on a normal day but mum is insisting i cant leave her out especially if im asking my best friends because she says family comes first but i believe the real reason is mum doesnt want to deal with her creating a family feud over it and nor do i. as for the boys, my eldest sisters husband i consider a brother he’s been in my life since i can remember.. and then theres my younger sisters husband (not close to him but i cant leave him out if i ask my brother wife.. again family feud worthy)
i really want to have my two bestfriends (15yr friendships) and older sisters husband but i dont want to offend my brother, his wife or my mum however having everyone would mean 6 BM’s and 5 GM’s total!!
i understand its our wedding and we can do want we want however my family are very close and my parents are footing a lot of the bill. again the last thing i want is to offend anyone! i just want a clear veiw of who i should have before i get put on the spot!!
heres my questions. Has anyone had a similar situation?? or such a large bridal party? if so what was the most difficult part? has anyone lost friendships because they didnt have their friends? what would you do if you were us?
sorry for such a long post im just desperate for some outside advise!!!!