Post # 1
Ok Hive, I am at my wits end. I only have 2 bridesmaids and a Maid/Matron of Honor. They can not agree on a dress, even ones I really like and think look great; not only on them but also for the vision I have in my head of what I want this day to look like. I have not had one “fun” dress shopping trip and I was really looking forward to spending extra time with my daughter, sister and best friend. I’m usually fighting tears 1/2 hour into every shopping trip. Isn’t this supposed to be fun???
We also have 2 Groomsmaids (not sure what to call them yet) who ask me what I like and what type of look or theme I wanted. I sent them both emails with choices that I liked and through email (one in Chicago one in Vancouver) the three of us agreed on ONE dress, shoes, hair, and makeup the very next day! I had more fun with them through emails than I have had for the past 3 months with my girls.
What should I do, tell them color, material and length and let them shop on their own? Or should I choose a dress for them? Help!
Post # 3
If they can’t agree on one, I suggest you just pick one. I originally was going to let my girls choose their own, and it ended up being harder on them because none of them could decide what they wanted to do and they were all worried about choosing ones I would like… I think for some groups of girls who really enjoy fashion and know what they want, giving them the choice can be great. But other groups of girls are really indecisive and would rather have you just pick one. Sounds like your BMs are one of the latter that I mentioned. 🙂
Post # 4
@brideatbeach: Good point, I think your right. They do seem to not want to make a choice so they don’t upset somebody else. I didn’t think about it that way. Thanks!
Post # 5
@AnnieM621: My girls actually told me they were relieved when I chose one. I thought it would stress them out less to be easy-going and let them choose, but they kept stressing about making me sad with their choices when I had been so nice as to let them choose the dresses. Their words, not mine. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m letting mine choose because I know that my Maid/Matron of Honor wants something a little more fitted and the 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man wouldn’t be comfortable with that….I might have the 2 bridesmaids in the same dress if they like similar things.