- 4 years ago
Hi, bees! I’m starting to plan my September 2015 wedding (we got engaged 2 weeks ago, on our 4 year dating anniversary – so excited!!) and I’ve started thinking about who my bridesmaids will be. This seems like a supportive community, so I’m hoping to get some guidance on what you would do (or have already done) in my situation. I’m okay with waiting until about September of this year, so that gives me a little time to decide. But this has been on my mind and I wanted to get some input.
To start, my fiancé and I definitely want equal numbers in our wedding party. We each have 3 people we’d like to include for sure. For him, that’s a high school friend, a work friend, and my brother. For me, that’s a close friend from school, my cousin, and his sister. That part is easy!
My fiancé would like to have 2 of his cousins as groomsmen, which I am totally supportive of! They’re great guys and I want them in the bridal party. It’s my 4th and 5th bridesmaids that are causing me stress. I have 2 friends I’ve been close to all through college – I met them on day 1, and we’ve stayed really good friends! These two are definitely a package deal, as I’m equally close to both of them. But they often bring about a lot of drama that I am totally tired of dealing with. Also, I feel that we are starting to drift, and as they graduate college this year I can definitely envision that trend continuing, though I’m not 100% sure. I always would have considered them bridesmaid-level friends up until recently when I’ve begun to really question it… it’s weird to think that they wouldn’t be in it. (Though it’d probably be less drama, unless they really work to be less drama-y.)
The problem is that I’d need 2 more girls. These 2 college friends are honestly my closest friends other than the 3 girls in my bridal party for sure!! If I choose anyone else my college friends will know that, and be really hurt. I feel like this could damange or end the friendship in itself, (as I said, they can be huge drama queens), which I don’t want. But then again, maybe these friendships aren’t meant to last past college anyway… I have 2 others I would consider asking, though again, I’m not as close to them as I am to my 2 college friends.
I guess it’s hard because I’m at the age where my friends and I are starting our adult lives, which can bring about transtitions in friendship anyway. And now I need to think about choosing bridesmaids in this transition time. Sorry for such a long post – any words of wisdom and advice would be much appreciated!!