(Closed) Choosing Bridesmaids

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I’d go for my close friends over my sisters in law.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think generally, when people include a sibling-in-law, it’s the case of the spouse’s sibling, rather than your sibling’s spouse. Unless you’re very close, of course! Were your sister-in-law in each other’s weddings as well, or were you just in theirs? Since you have so many, I think (I hope!) they would understand if you wanted to include your friends and not have a huge bridal party.

Is this something you could talk to your brothers about? They could maybe gauge if their wives are expecting to be a bridesmaid/would be upset to not be. Also, are your brothers going to be groomsmen?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

At the end of the day it is your wedding and it should be about what you want, which seems to be your close friends.  I had a similar tough decision with including family and friends, and decided to avoid the drama by making them ALL my bridesmaids (10!).  My fiancé is only having 5 groomsmen, but the split is exactly half so pictures will be just fine.  Maybe you can consider the same approach to avoid conflict because of how invested you are in everyone’s life? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree with MarlaMallow that including your FI’s sister is not the same thing as including your brother’s wife and did they just include you (Fi’s sister) or all the other wives too (FI’s brother’s wife). If you choose to go with best friends, you shouldn’t feel guilty.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

This is a tough one.  Because you don’t want to probably pick and choose a few of each because even if one friend or Sister in law is closer it just is hard to justify tothe rest.  If you feel close enogh to both friends and in laws then consider 10 – it might be worth the extra expense to keep everyone happy.  Or look for a special role for the in laws ie.  The four of them could be ushers or even walk down the aisle and light a candle, let them mc, do a speech, whatever

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

How much of an age gap is there between you and your sister in laws? Sometimes a person feels like they’ve been in too many weddings already and they’re kind of over being a bridesmaid or they have too many responsiblities with children if they have them. Maybe your friends might be a better option?

Would you consider asking all of them? I know 2 people that had many bridesmaids (one had 11 and the other had 14) just because they had many siblings, sibiling-in-laws, and very very close friends. And everything worked out great for them

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