Post # 1
I need help figuring out if this is ok, and how to go about asking my maids.
We are planning to have 5 people each in our parties, fiancé already know his 5 off the bat. My problem is that I am not close to most of my prospective maids on a day to day basis. Actually, three of the 5 I didnt even have thier current phone numbers to tell them I am engaged. I mostly keep in touch via facebook, in short comments and wall posts. They are all ladies I have been very close to at different points in my life, but lost touch with over the years after moving due to school, changes in lifestyle, etc.
So, my question is: first, is it wierd that I would be asking peoria I rarely talk to or have. Seen I years? Second, what would you say to a friend who asked after just having facebook contact over the past few years? How do you go about asking in situations like that?
Help is wholeheartedly appreciated.
Post # 3
I think if the love is there even if the contact isn’t always up to scratch then go for it, I ahve some friends whom i love dearly but dont always have a very good track record of keeping in touch with. plus this occasion might just be whant ure friendship needs to pich it up
Post # 4
You don’t have to have day-to-day contact to consider someone a close friend, so I don’t think it’s wierd at all. You know them best, and if you consider them to be close to you, then go for it. I’m sure they’ll be flattered.
For my out of town bridesmaids, I went to Hallmark.com, found an e-card about friendship that I liked, wrote a heartfelt message about what each friendship means to me, and asked them to be a bridesmaid at the end. Also, Hallmark.com offers the option to send the e-card via a Facebook message as well, so you won’t have to track down email addresses if you don’t have them.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall
If you still consider them to be a close-to-your-heart friend, then it’s not weird at all. One of my BM’s I haven’t seen in person in 5 years I think? We were best friends for 7-8 years and we’ve always kept in touch even though I moved to a different state. Even though I don’t get to see her, she’s the kind of friend I’d call in crisis-mode or to share something awesome with. Do whatever feels right to you! 🙂
I liked GeorgiaTeacup’s suggestion of an e-card or you could always message them for their address and send them a physical card as well. Good luck!
Post # 6
Sounds like you have established relationships with these friends in that you are comfortable enough to not have to speak to them everyday yet still know that you have meaningful friendships. I think they will be flattered and honored to be your bridesmaids.