(Closed) Choosing bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do with regards to picking bridesmaids?
    Just stick with a MOH : (11 votes)
    31 %
    I wouldn't pick anyone who may not be in my life 5 years from now : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Your BMs represent who is important to you now, don't worry about if you're tight in the future : (8 votes)
    22 %
    Family over friends, pick the cousins : (2 votes)
    6 %
    BMs should be friends, pick the friends : (0 votes)
    Gah, I feel/have felt this way too! : (4 votes)
    11 %
    I picked someone I wasn't super tight with and it drew us together : (1 votes)
    3 %
    I picked someone I wasn't super tight with and I totally regretted it : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Having younger bridesmaids is no biggie, they'll be so enthusiastic! : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think you’re ok to just have one attendant.  It’s risky to pick other people just to have ‘filler’ since the more people in your wedding party, the more drama (and more $$- gotta get gifts for everyone!)

    Save yourself the hassle and stick with your gut.  I’m sure your other friends & cousins will offer to help out without needing to go out and buy a dress & stand up there with you.

    Post # 4
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I voted just stick with the Maid/Matron of Honor I think it will be lovely with her closest friend and really show off your friendship 🙂

    Post # 5
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It’s okay to just have one attendant. Don’t let others pressure you into getting more. Remember you have to deal with that headache, not others.

    Post # 6
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t see my best friends that often–my Maid/Matron of Honor and two bridesmaids–though only one of them lives here (and she has a kid and a full time job). One of the BMs is FI’s little sister, who I do see a lot, but she’s only 16. The final Bridesmaid or Best Man is my cousin (my age) who has a full time job, school, a kid, AND lives in another state. We communicate frequently, but I never see her. I’ve seen her only a few times in the past 10 years.

    Pick the ladies (or gents?) closest to you now, ones who don’t cause drama and will be dependable.

    Post # 8
    2716 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you should just stick with your Maid/Matron of Honor.  Your BMs should be your nearest and dearest, so if you aren’t that close to your GFs, then I wouldn’t ask them to be BMs. If you are second guessing your decision, just read through some posts on the Bridesmaid board about brides who are drifting apart from their BMs.

    And besides, you can always add people if you start to become super close with a current friend or make a new one, but it’s very hard (and rude) to take people out of your wedding party.


    Post # 9
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @cbgg:  People get so caught up with numbers. Honestly you will regret not having just your close people in your party. It makes it more special to have only close people up there. That is why i am having no friends-just my siblings on my side and his siblings on his side. I dont want people to see the wedding pitures and be like who is that? who cares what everyone else says. you should try to fill spots up and waste money. just pick your Maid/Matron of Honor, tell everyone what you are doing and dont make it up for discussion. cut them off when they start. say “you know, i only feel comfortable with having my closest person up there with me and i am happy with it.”

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