(Closed) Choosing Bridesmaids without a close group of friends

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Not at all…..although I have a bunch of friends I will mostly be doing family (or my fiance’s) in my bridal party….some of my friends I just didn’t feel close enough to I guess so my bridal part is…

2 sisters, my fiance’s sister, my fiance’s sister in law, and then 2 close friends….

Post # 4
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No I don’t think it’s weird at all! I don’t have a close group of friends either. It was a bit easier for me though, since I am only having 3. I chose my sister, FI’s sister, and my one close friend!

Post # 5
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, I think it’s a little weird to have your mom be in your bridal party.  It sounds like you are just trying to scrape up seven women to match your FI’s seven groomsmen.  It doesn’t have to be even numbers.  There is nothing wrong with having less than 7 bridesmaids – 7 is a lot to me!

Post # 7
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I do think it is a little different, but if you feel comfortable with it then that’s all that matters.

Post # 8
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance is actually in your situation. He had about 3 groomsmen drop out. I felt so bad for him! anywho though, so we decided just to have two each.

Him: His brother & my cousin

Me: My sister & my best friend

Now adays I really dont get what the big need is for having a huge wedding party. Its almost become more of a social status then people who really mean something to you. Its kinda sad.

Post # 9
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have more guy friends than girlfriends, so this was hard for us. I’ve seen brides have their moms up there as a bridesmaid, I’ve seen non-gender specific wedding parties where there are guys and girls on both sides, and I’ve attended weddings where there wasn’t anyone up there but the bride and groom. Go with what ya feel!

Post # 11
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t have many close female friends, so my party is going to be my friend as Maid/Matron of Honor, then my cousin as a bridesmaid, my younger cousin as a Jr. Bridesmaid.  That’s it.  FI will have three groomsmen.  I think limiting it is a lot better than adding people you aren’t really close to just for the sake of having balanced parties on both sides, or looking more ‘popular’ or whatever.

Post # 12
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think you should worry about having even numbers- just ask the girls that you truly want to have stand up for you.  I have 3 bridesmaids and a Maid/Matron of Honor, Fiance has 5 groomsmen and a Best Man.  I was upset at first but now I’m over it; I realized that it wasn’t worth it to me to ask girls who weren’t my close friends and that I was really and truly happy with just the 4 that i have, because those 4 girls mean the world to me and I really think it will be more special to just have them there.  Remember that it’s only for a few photos and the ceremony; most people won’t notice or care if the numbers are uneven.

Post # 13
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think that it is weird at all. Everyones bridal parties are different.

My girls are

MOH- Best Friend since 4th grade

Bridesmaid or Best Man1- My cousin

Bridesmaid or Best Man2- Close Friend

Bridesmaid or Best Man3- Future Sister-In-Law

Bridesmaid or Best Man4- Close Friend

Bridesmaid or Best Man5- Close Friend

You can do whatever you want and I think that it is super sweet that you are having your mom.

Post # 15
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Awesome that you are making new girlfriends- I think sometimes that gets hard as we get older.  I think you probably have a few months to “ask” your bridal party (I didn’t do it until December, and I am getting married in July!) so maybe do just see how it goes with your two new friends. 🙂 

In any case, I think those of us who have “uneven” bridal parties just wanted to make sure you know that it’s “ok to be uneven”! Laughing

Post # 16
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s not weird.  I’m personally using my only friend that is a girl and my little cousin.  That’s it and I think it’s great.  You can go the uneven route, or you can match it up with your eclectic group.  It’s really whatever works for you and your fiance!! 

p.s. Love that your Mom will be in your party too- that’s really cool!

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