Post # 1
I replied to a thread the other night that confirmed Weddingbee was about the extent of my social life.
Needless to say, when my Fiance wrote his list of Groomsmen and the total was 7, I was a little like “wth?”. Who will I have!?? (And there is no “cutting”, they are all really close friends on the same level)
I have decided on having two of his really good girlfriends as my bridesmaids. They all have been friends since grade school. I like both girls, and they live here in town (everyone else lives 2+ hrs away), so it would be nice to have someone here to talk “wedding” with.
The other members of my party will be:
12 yr old sister
Best childhood friend (still close today)
Really good childhood friend who lived across the street
My step-brother’s fiance (such a sweetheart!)
What do you think? Is it weird?
Post # 3
Not at all…..although I have a bunch of friends I will mostly be doing family (or my fiance’s) in my bridal party….some of my friends I just didn’t feel close enough to I guess so my bridal part is…
2 sisters, my fiance’s sister, my fiance’s sister in law, and then 2 close friends….
Post # 4
No I don’t think it’s weird at all! I don’t have a close group of friends either. It was a bit easier for me though, since I am only having 3. I chose my sister, FI’s sister, and my one close friend!
Post # 5
Honestly, I think it’s a little weird to have your mom be in your bridal party. It sounds like you are just trying to scrape up seven women to match your FI’s seven groomsmen. It doesn’t have to be even numbers. There is nothing wrong with having less than 7 bridesmaids – 7 is a lot to me!
Post # 6
About the mom thing, no way.. I have an earlier post on the whole thing.
She is my best friend and I had decided on that long before he told me 7.
Mother as Maid/Matron of Honor and divorced, Maid or Matron?
I know it’s becoming more common to do the uneven thing, but I just can’t. I’ve had a weird-o phobia about odd or mismatching things since I was young. *I know, I know..
Post # 7
I do think it is a little different, but if you feel comfortable with it then that’s all that matters.
Post # 8
My Fiance is actually in your situation. He had about 3 groomsmen drop out. I felt so bad for him! anywho though, so we decided just to have two each.
Him: His brother & my cousin
Me: My sister & my best friend
Now adays I really dont get what the big need is for having a huge wedding party. Its almost become more of a social status then people who really mean something to you. Its kinda sad.
Post # 9
I have more guy friends than girlfriends, so this was hard for us. I’ve seen brides have their moms up there as a bridesmaid, I’ve seen non-gender specific wedding parties where there are guys and girls on both sides, and I’ve attended weddings where there wasn’t anyone up there but the bride and groom. Go with what ya feel!
Post # 10
Thanks for the words of encouragement, @ProudPeacockBride and everyone else!
The LAST thing I wanted was a huge wedding party, honestly. But I can’t tell him “no” you can’t have your best, lifelong friends stand up there with you. I’m just not that kinda girl.
@Kare7213, I guess I don’t understand the “social status” thing? You are “higher up” the more people you have? I have never heard of that or thought of that.
I hate myself for being weird about the uneven thing.. Because, believe me, we are on a TIGHT budget so I am having a hard time figuring out what we are going to give everyone as gifts. Although I am letting the girls choose their own dresses and shoes, and we’re DIYing hair and makeup, so at least their costs won’t be skyhigh.
Post # 11
I don’t have many close female friends, so my party is going to be my friend as Maid/Matron of Honor, then my cousin as a bridesmaid, my younger cousin as a Jr. Bridesmaid. That’s it. FI will have three groomsmen. I think limiting it is a lot better than adding people you aren’t really close to just for the sake of having balanced parties on both sides, or looking more ‘popular’ or whatever.
Post # 12
I don’t think you should worry about having even numbers- just ask the girls that you truly want to have stand up for you. I have 3 bridesmaids and a Maid/Matron of Honor, Fiance has 5 groomsmen and a Best Man. I was upset at first but now I’m over it; I realized that it wasn’t worth it to me to ask girls who weren’t my close friends and that I was really and truly happy with just the 4 that i have, because those 4 girls mean the world to me and I really think it will be more special to just have them there. Remember that it’s only for a few photos and the ceremony; most people won’t notice or care if the numbers are uneven.
Post # 13
I don’t think that it is weird at all. Everyones bridal parties are different.
My girls are
MOH- Best Friend since 4th grade
Bridesmaid or Best Man1- My cousin
Bridesmaid or Best Man2- Close Friend
Bridesmaid or Best Man3- Future Sister-In-Law
Bridesmaid or Best Man4- Close Friend
Bridesmaid or Best Man5- Close Friend
You can do whatever you want and I think that it is super sweet that you are having your mom.
Post # 14
I have actually started going over to these girls apartment (they live together) to watch Lost every week, and one of them and I are going “out on the town” together Saturday. It’s kind of happened all of a sudden. That’s why I am asking this, I think maybe we will get closer as the date comes along.
I haven’t mentioned anything to them yet, so I think I will wait a month or two and see how things go.
Now that some of you are really pushing for the uneven thing, I might just go with that. You are right, I should not have peope up there with me unless they mean a lot to me.
Maybe I will have two new close girlfriends that mean a lot to me in the next couple of months? Who knows. We shall see.
Thank you everyone for your input, I have taken it all to heart 🙂
Post # 15
Awesome that you are making new girlfriends- I think sometimes that gets hard as we get older. I think you probably have a few months to “ask” your bridal party (I didn’t do it until December, and I am getting married in July!) so maybe do just see how it goes with your two new friends. 🙂
In any case, I think those of us who have “uneven” bridal parties just wanted to make sure you know that it’s “ok to be uneven”!
Post # 16
It’s not weird. I’m personally using my only friend that is a girl and my little cousin. That’s it and I think it’s great. You can go the uneven route, or you can match it up with your eclectic group. It’s really whatever works for you and your fiance!!
p.s. Love that your Mom will be in your party too- that’s really cool!