(Closed) Choosing Bridesmaids

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I say have the people who are going to help you on your wedding day the most if something goes wrong.  If you are trying to avoid drama and keep it small, then don’t include the extra girl.  If you really want her, include her, and see if there are other jobs you can give the other girls, readers, ushers, passing out programs, guest book, etc.  The other girls should really know that it is YOUR wedding and should just be happy for you, not catty because they aren’t bridesmaids.  If you think it’s going to cause that much drama to invite the 4th girl, it may not be worth the headache.  You can still have that girl do something special.

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Post # 4
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Is your date for 2012?  To be honest, I would wait to ask your bridal party, or at least from this group of friends until you’re much closer, like even just a year out.  Things can change in the next few years that you can’t even forsee and you may regret your early decision.  If you still want to include these friends, or even just this girl, I am sure she would be happy going to dress appointments or caterers before she is (or isn’t) formally asked.

Post # 7
Member
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I would wait to make any decisions until you have a date and are a year out from the wedding.  A lot can happen in two years, and this may not even be an issue then.  Maybe they move out of state or are otherwise unable to help with the wedding.  There are a lot of posts about “changing” or “firing” BMs from girls who chose their party too early.  While I know you’re excited about the engagement, you should wait to choose your party.

Post # 8
Member
5959 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree that you should wait to ask.  

And just a hunch – if you think choosing 1 of the three will cause drama…it probably will.  A year from now this problem may work itself out.

Post # 9
Member
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

You have plenty of time. You don;t have to pick so early.

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