Choosing MOH – role, or relationship?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who should I pick as my MOH
    M - oldest, most organized sister : (1 votes)
    13 %
    A - closest sister : (5 votes)
    63 %
    None of the above - choose your best female friend to avoid ranking sisters : (2 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wouldn’t have a Matron of Honour, just all equal bridesmaids.

    Post # 3
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    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    It really depends on what you want from a Maid/Matron of Honor. If you want the emotional/bonding asepect then go with your closest sister. If you want someone who will organize and plan parties then go with your older one. My oldest sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor. She is very well planned and organized but due to life circumstances I knew her ability to plan out all of “traditional” bridal stuff would be limited. I was ok with this because I didn’t really care about that stuff. It was more important to have her be my Maid/Matron of Honor and stand next to me on the wedding day.

    With that said, if you are someone who gets annoyed at disorganized events and you plan on having all the traditional bridal things, I would go with the organized sister. A wedding is pretty stressful even for the most chill bride and adding on the stress of monitoring a disorganized Maid/Matron of Honor will not help with that. 🙂

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Don’t have an Maid/Matron of Honor, just keep everyone on equal footing. I’m having my only sister, my 10 year old niece and two of my best friends. I wasn’t going to have an Maid/Matron of Honor at all but as my fiancé wanted a best man, decided to make my 10 year old niece my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s thrilled that she’s the most special and it just means we’ll get our mums to sign the marriage certificate.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    wolfeyes :  There are no “roles”.  I don’t even know what that means.  There is nothing that the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor would have to do together or anything.  Their “role” is to stand up there during the ceremony.  Period.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    If I were you I wouldn’t pick a Maid/Matron of Honor and would just have everyone be a bridesmaid. I’d explain to them all that they are equally important to you and you wouldn’t be able to choose – I wouldn’t!  I’m sure your oldest sister would step up to help with planning anyway, no matter her role, if that is what she enjoys doing.

     

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Just because your Fiance has a Bridesmaid or Best Man doesnt mean you need a Maid/Matron of Honor. Have one sister hold the rings, the other sister does the signing etc. I think picking sisters sounds like an excellent way to hurt the other, no matter how well intentioned.

    Anyone can throw you a party. THey dont need to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, or even a bridal party member.

    Post # 12
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    2732 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Hemnes :  This is EXACTLY what I did, all bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor so I didn’t have the drama of choosing my ‘favourite’ friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. The most organized one seems to be taking the lead for planning a bachelorette/shower, no title needed. And my fiance is having a best man, but I don’t mind in the slightest that its mismatched!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I just have to say your family sounds like a blessing to be a part of. I wish I had a relationship with my sister half as strong as the ones you have with three! I think having no Maid/Matron of Honor is the best choice for you, too. Have a lovely wedding! 

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