- 10 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Perhaps you can give me some perspective on this as I am having trouble deciding on my bridesmaids and maid/matron of honour decisions. Here is my situation: for my bridal party I was thinking of asking my sister, and two friends from church. My sister is now my only sibling and we are fairly close, but she is not a Christian so I don’t always feel like I can share everything with her. She lives one province over so she won’t be around really during planning. My two other friends from church I have formed good friendships with, and as we live in the same city, and we share the spiritual side of things I feel they will be there for me more in the ways I may need. I think the spiritual back up is more important to me, and I actually don’t intend on asking for much practical back-up as I want to keep the pre-wedding events very simple. If I have a shower, it would be a church based shower (and these are kept small and low cost) so that would be hosted by one of my two friends at church.
To further complicate things, the friend who I would want to be Maid/Matron of Honor is having her first child in January and so may not even be able to be a bridesmaid for my spring/summer wedding.
So considering all this it would seem more fitting to ask one of these ladies to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but some part of me feels that it might be more appropriate to ask my sister and honour our longer relationship. But does it make sense to have a Maid/Matron of Honor when the bridesmaids are actually doing more of the work? Does it make sense to have a Maid/Matron of Honor who is not a Christian for a wedding which really is a commitment before God? Am I overthinking it all? I haven’t officially asked anyone yet but my sister assumes that she is in the party.