(Closed) Choosing shoes for bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it depends on your cousin. If she’s getting frustrated, I say give in, it’s not worth stressing the relationship. If she’s game for trying more options, maybe give her some direction. As a side note about heels: I have lots of pretty heels that I almost never wear because I’ve got bad joints and they get irritated quickly with heels. My solution to weddings has been to wear heels for the ceremony and the first part of the reception, then change to flats. If you’re okay with that, you might suggest that she doesn’t have to wear the heels the whole night – might make her more amenable to your suggestions.

Post # 4
46413 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it would be bridezilla of you at all to suggest that she wait until you have chosen the dress! The shoes are supposed to be the accessory- chosen to go with the dress, not the dress chosen to match the shoes.

Maybe it will be easier for the two of you to agree on shoes after you have the dress in hand.

ps this is based on my understanding that you have not chosen HER dress.


Post # 5
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would tell her to wait until after you buy the dress. Then, consider sending her an assortment of choices that you think suit the dress & see if she thinks any of those are appropriate. 

Post # 7
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Maybe just give her some basic criteria once you choose the dress. Tell her she can pick out any pair of shoes in (insert color here) with at least a 2″ heel. Send her an email with some shoes that fit the criteria in different budget options so she has an idea what you are looking for.

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