Post # 1
Hi! Right now, I am thinking about have three girls in my bridal party – my two sisters and my close friend since high school. My fiance wants to have three guys in it – his brother, my brother, and his three close friends.
I have not given much thought to adding any more bridesmaids because I was okay with not having the same amount of girls and guys. However, I have been thinking about whether or not I should add two more friends who were my “big sister” and “little sister” in my sorority. I was close to these two girls in college (2 years ago), but we have not spoken very much since then and have only seen each other once or twice.
If I chose 2 more girls, it would be these two. But I don’t know if it would be weird to ask since we aren’t very close anymore. We live in different cities now, but I’ll be moving closer to them again next month.
Any ideas or advice?? Thanks.
Post # 3
I would suggest having uneven sides. There’s nothing worse than ending up with a ton of wedding party drama because you asked people you didn’t really want to ask in the first place. Think about your bridal party as your nearest and dearest friends, not as props for wedding pictures 🙂
Also, if you live near someone or they become closer as the process of wedding planning progresses, there is no law that says just because someone isn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man that they can’t help with planning & be supportive of you as you get closer to your wedding date!
Post # 4
if you aren’t really in touch with them, you don’t have to ask them. they’re probably not expecting to be asked and being a bridesmaid takes time and money. if you’re fine with your bridal party as is, why add more people just for the sake of adding more people?
Post # 5
If I were in your situation, I would probably invite the two sorority girls to the wedding but not have them be in my bridal party. I chose my bridal party based on those that I have close relationships with and those are the girls I want standing up there supporting me on the big day.
Post # 6
Do you feel that you NEED even sides? I know I do, so I can feel the predicament.
If so, are there any other girls who could “fill the slot”? i.e. family members in his family, in your family, other friends that live close by that you talk to more? These people would/could possibly be less drama.
If not, just go with the uneven sides, it will be cheaper, and less stress.